BIL being weird

I don't think you're overthinking. Your daughter is at an age where she has awareness and I would draw boundaries too. I agree with voicing it out. I would also draw boundaries even if it's my own husband, at some point he would have to stop washing my daughter's private parts and changing my daughter's diapers so she learns that it's not okay for men to touch her at her private parts. And it's also not okay to have an audience during those times. If your BIL would like to spend time with your daughter, suggest for him to do it during playtime (with others around) and not watch her during baths or diaper changes. I would feel weirded out too. I think it's worth taking a stand even if they think you're 'overthinking'.

NEVER LET ANY OTHER MALES bathe your child. I am alwaes cautious when i change diaper ard guys, doesn't matter if it's my own brother or BIL. Your BIL is definitely acting weird. pls do not leave your daughter alone with her. And pls if you're not ard, ensure your MIL not to let your BIL be alone with your daughter. Pls protect your daughter. If you cnnt control things, pls get another caregiver while you're at wrk. Better be safe than sorry. Once a bad thing happened (touch wood) nauzubillah, it can't be erased off your daughter's mind. Pls do something.

Please tell your hubby to talk to his brother and refrain from doing that. Please do not allow your daughter to be alone with him. Don't bother what others say "no lah, won't la, don't so scare lah etc". I don't even hug my daughter now who is in primary school. I told her you have grown up so I can't hug you but my love towards you have never changed.

Not right, ask your hubby talk to his brother to stop this behavior immediately. Respect has to be given to his nephew (your child). Ask your MIL to close & Lock the door when Bathing your child (Or best if you bath your child yourself). If this weird behavior still continue, please consider to get a house for you, yourself & your hubby only.

You as the parent have the right to speak up. Time to draw a line. If u are uncomfortable speak to ur husb to help u say on behalf or something. I live with my own brother and even so i have taught my kids certain boundaries, parts of their body where other ppl can’t see or touch.. but my brother also understands la

Hi all. I did talk to my husband about it but he feels is normal and there's nothing wrong with it. things at home is very complicated. my mil doesn't like it when I say about her sons, she will get angry. and I rly need her to care for my child as there's no space to hire help and I'm working/studying currently..

Mother instinct is accurate. It’s not right to let other males beside father to bathe your daughter. It could become habit and your daughter might think that it’s normal and let her guard down. Talk to your husband so he can help to settle this problem with his brother.

at the very first place, as a mother you should only be the one touching your daughter's body not even siblings (brothers) if ever have nor the father..u better put an end to it. it's something very wrong.

No...! That's already a red flag! Best to get your child away from him. Better be safe then sorry. Why not starting from now on, you bath & change your child's diaper in your room.

is difficult to bring up my concerns or unhappiness here as my in laws will lash back and say they've been caring for my daughter so what rights I have to say them.