MIL issues

OMG SAME!!! Ok so my husband has 3 elder sisters. My eldest SIL nonchalantly told my baby to address her 2nd sister as MAMA DARLING. I was like wtf? Her actual name is Linda but when she was young, people kept calling her Lindalindalindalindalinda so it became Darling. That I don’t mind. But please lah, have the courtesy to ask ME AS THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD what I want my child to address her as. Everytime my in-laws address her as MAMA DARLING, I feel frustrated and curse under my breath. Uggghhh. I will just tell my daughter to address her as Cik Darling, nobody is Mama or Mummy to you. You only have ONE mother and that is ME, your Umi. I will purposely say that in front of everyone. Many times I told my husband I hate it everytime his side calls address his sister by that title but he doesn’t bother. Thank God I came across this post with one of the comments below about the title mummy doesn’t come for free. Hahahaha SAVAGE LAH. I’m gonna BAHASAKAN MY IN-LAW SIDE. 😈

Reply them sarcastically this way.. The title “mummy” doesn’t comes for free. Kindly send a carton of diaper & a carton of infant formula monthly. Ask her if she’s willing to top up your baby’s CDA account for his schooling needs as well? And how much? And yes, kindly have a fair share of the final hospital bill. 🙄🙄🙄 This Bodo culture is only common among us Malays.. I hv to call my aunt “ibu” (mother) when she’s one of my least fav aunt. Gross!

Your reaction is normal for many mothers. I would not want to be called mummy by my niece or nephew too. First, try talking to your husband about your concerns and once both of you agree then have courage to talk to your SIL and MIL with your husband by your side about it. The child is yours and your child should be the one calling you mummy.

you are def not over reacting or being dramatic! my sil once asked me if my baby can call her yiyimama (aunty mummy) and I told my husband straight off that it's a big no! my kid only has got one mother! they need to learn how to respect the mother and not imposing what they want.

Huh that's just weird, there's a meaning to the word Mummy and Aunt, what is the MIL and SIL trying to teach to the kids? Definitely not reacting, if she didn't carry the kid for 9mths she has no right to the title.

I would have felt weird too!. It’s them that they should respect that different people have different practices and shouldn’t be imposed to call anyone else as mum and dad except own biological parents!

Your child, you decide. Don’t bother about your mil. Calling aunty “mummy” only confuse the childX

U are normal