Hi mommies, my 13mo gal has a very loud and bad temper. She is impatient and when she wants something which we don't give to her she will have a meltdown, scream cry and twist in our arms even when outside. How do I "tame" her down? The family environment she is in is quite noisy in the day as there are three other kids taken care of by my parents and my parents sometimes scold the other kids loudly. I also admit that when I was pregnant I was in a bad mood most of the times as some things happened and I was perpetually in an irritated mode. I am afraid it affected her when she was still inside me. After she was born , she continues to be exposed to a noisy environment and I was also emotional and often irritated because my husband was not at my side most of the time and when he was he did not help much. There are a few times I shouted at my gal loudly coz she was crying and fussing. Tell me is it too late to change all of these or is she going to grow up a fussy loud and bad tempered gal? I feel so guilty and Sad

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i think that because she is already in a very noisy environment most of the time, she too has developed a natural tendency of being loud. it is her way of coping with people and things around her, and definitely should not mean that she is someone who needs to be tamed down. i think you will have to do a little bit more work with her and spend quality time in a quieter space with her. maybe take her out for the weekend sometimes, or just keep her with you in your room and talk to her calmly and nicely. when she throws a tantrum, don't be angry and dont shout at her, but tell her nicely that you love her and help her to calm down. it will take time and patience but please keep on trying.

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it's not late but i think the constant loud environment where she is always exposed to too much noise and shouting makes her react in the same way, as she knows no other way at the moment. if possible, take a break and go somewhere else for a few weeks. it may help her calm down a little. at this age, she will start expressing her emotions and sometimes it may also come out as anger and shouting, which is normal, but not at all times. make sure that you also take a soft approach and speak nicely and don't shout or raise your voice. it will take time but i am sure it will gradually help

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at this age she is learning to express her emotions, and many times, it could come across as too loud. this is mainly because such small babies don't understand what is too much and how to tone down things. also, as you mentioned the environment in the house is generally loud, this may come across as natural to her. i would suggest you speak to her in a soft voice, sit down to be level with her, and look her in the eye while speaking. try not to shout and stay patient, as doing this regularly will show her how she too can be a little quieter than what she is.

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It's never too late to 'tame' your girl. at 15months they are at a age of expressing themselves but they don't know how to express themselves verbally. Have some paitence in guiding, squat down to her level and speak to her. I do lose my temper to my toddlers too. i always regret my actions. So whenever my toddler start throwing temper, i will bend down to his level, look into his eye and talk to him.

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It seems like you need a change of environment. I wouldn't rule that it contributes to her tantrums but a quieter and peaceful environment also allows a family to be more well rested, particularly when your baby needs nap in the afternoon but was too noisy due to other kids and the scoldings, it may affect her sleep quality too.

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It’s normal. We just have to be more patient and understanding. Try to read some articles about melt down and how to deal with it especially in public.

It is never too late. Your toddler is still young. Have patience and slowly guide her. You can change the environment and be good role models.

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