I've always seen so much positive and sweet reactions/responses from husbands when their wives announce their pregnancy or even say, "I think I am pregnant (again)." My husband's reaction is always negative. He always ends up stress and angry with no mood. The first time we got pregnant was before we even tie the knot and he got very unhappy. He was very short tempered and he faced a problem at work. He got verbal and almost threw a chair to his boss. He was then suspended and eventually dismissed. We eventually had an abortion as both of us felt that we were not ready. A year on, we got pregnant again and he told his parents who then told us to tie the knot officially. After we gave birth to firstborn, he kept saying that he wanted another child to try for another gender as everyone keeps telling him that maybe next one is the other gender. But everytime I get pregnant, he ends up in hyper stress mode and he keep having second thoughts n unhappy about it. His response is always so negative.. never has it been a positive reaction. And i always regret telling him. Especially when it is not confirmed or just a fals alarm.. like "I think I am pregnant again." I just thought I tell him so he can be prepared but seems it is the wrong move. Makes me feel sad all the time. Like we are a burden and unwanted. Please tell me that I am not alone and that this negative reaction is normal.

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You are not alone. When i found out i was pregnant. I wasnt please either. In fact, i was so upset. The firat thing that cane to my mind was to abort. As for my husband, he was terribly stressed out. Time wasnt right. We had no house nor were we financially doing okay. Eventually as time passed, we managed to accept the pregnancy. For my second child, i never cared about him, the minute he was born i didnt like him. But now, he is my everything. Till date hubby says, our kids are our responsibility, if we dont love them, who would? I hope you feel better soon. Maybe your hub is stressed out, having a baby can indeed be overwhelming.

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