Relatives alwys hv smth to say,as if Im the worst Mum!

Im a single mum & a first time mum, I know I have a lot to learn and all. Whenever there is gathering or relatives came over to see my LO. They sure have 101 many things to comment! Etc : my lo is fully bf & doc ever said to bf her on demand. When they were asking how many hours she needs to eat & when i said Im bf her on demand. They eventually say whr got such thing and blame me for anyhow do things my way . The best part is whatever my relatives said my my mum always believe them n never once side me nor believe me! When i do as they say to feed her every 2-3 hrs using bottle,when she vomit out I gave them a look then they blame it on I dress her to lightly and now i let her catch a cold n thats why she vomit. Im totally going insane in every single thing i do as nw my mum nags for everything i do when i nv follow their ways and all! What should i do? Anyone go thru the same situation as me? Im so afraid Ill bcm depression. Idk who else i can talk to except to cry evey night alone. Im sorry but here is the only place i can rant out and ask for advise. Please give me some advice...

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Don't have to get angry or upset over people without proper knowledge yet think they are some smart alec! She's your daughter, your baby! Whatever you're doing it's all for her own good. You may consider telling your mom that it's an advise to feed your baby on demand by a professional doctor. Whatever you do will always be the best for your daughter. Try to assure your mom. Sometimes she may nag cos she may be kanchiong for her grand daughter too. Just keep repeat the same thing back to her will do.

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hi im a single mom too but its ok, it never come easy. been in your situation once, until now, i just speak up because i know my baby more than anybody. i will just be firm because its my baby, right? i took care of her, i know her. you have to think positive ok, just let all the words flow, dont let it be the reason youre down. your baby is your happiness ok mummy. :) chin up!

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Tell those ppl who blame u to keep their mouth shut n dont cross the line. U have to standup for urself n protect ur baby. Otherwise who gonna protect ur baby?! Goodness u r the mum. U have the full control of ur own child. Pls dont let ppl step over u otherwise ur child gonna suffer next time

Hello! I am also a single mum. Still slowly learning. Yes it’s not easy. Because people thinks I’m neglecting my child just because I’m not married. All the best! I cry everyday too. But I know I cannot give up for the sake of my girl Stay strong mana

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At least yours is relatives. Mine is mil that meet everyday. I got blamed eventhough its not my fault. She just want to cover her mistakes and make me looks worst than her

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some people speak without thinking it through & often easier said than done... stay strong 💪