mommies please tell me your honest opinion and advice.

I’m currently 3 months pregnant. Earlier today, I went to the doctor for a check-up. After that, I went back to my boyfriend’s place. I bought groceries for him and brought food for myself because I hadn’t eaten all morning and the hospital cafeteria was full. When I got back, I organized everything while he was asleep on the couch. I asked if I could eat, even just for 10 minutes, and he said no. He told me I woke him up at 3 AM just to eat, even though it was already 12 noon. I was really hungry and hadn’t eaten in hours. I suggested he rest in the bedroom so I could eat without disturbing him, but he still said no. Then he got up and drank the Coke I had bought, and it honestly felt like an insult. It felt like he didn’t care that I was pregnant, tired, and hungry. I was so frustrated that I grabbed the Coke from him and threw it. It spilled all over the couch and made a mess. After that, he got mad and hit me with a belt on my back. Now he is blaming me for ruining his couch and says I always break his things when we fight. I feel hurt, confused, and guilty. Was I really wrong? Should I have just stayed quiet and gone out to eat, even though I was exhausted? Am I being too emotional, or is this a red flag? Please be honest. I need clarity.

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kahit almost of us will say na run, i bet hindi ka pa rin aalis kasi mahal mo si guy and you'll end up giving chance na baka magbago lalo na may baby na kayo. Just share your story here if nagbreak na kayo ni guy kasi kung on the process ka pa lang ng sharing mo sa pananakit and aches mo sa kanya, hindi ka pa rin handang iwan siya. Just saying the reality here. Been there, done that. Hindi ko rin iniwan si guy kahit nagkabugbugan na kami nung buntis pa ako pero now na meron ng baby, he changed. Everything is just a matter of history.

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visible n visible nmn mhi. red flag? sinasaktan kna. dapt nga iwan mo na. kung kaya ka nyang saktan preggy ka plang mas mahirap at nakaka drain mg alaga ng baby tpos gnyn sya syo. it will have a huge impact lalo sa mental health mo. kung ako nga di pa sinasaktan ng asawa pero ramdam ko ung physical unavailability nya gusto ko na iwan eh. ikaw pa kaya lalo na sinasaktan. so think about urself lalo na sa tiny one na nasa loob mo. mas mahirap din na pati sya nakakaraanas ng hirap na pingdadaanan mo.

Magbasa pa

Very obvious! Red flag. Please ate. Wag mo pairalin ang salitang MARUPOK. Kasi in the future hnd lng ikaw ang sasaktan nyan, pati yung baby. Wag kanang dumagdag pa sa magiging issue sa social media. IWAN mo na habang maaga pa. At kung magmakaawa sya sayo. Wag ka magpapadaig sa EMOTION! Tandaan pag ang lalaki nag pakita na ng red flag. For life na yan. Para bang once a cheater always a cheater. So Iwan mo na ngayon plng. Dalawa lng choice mo. Maayos na buhay o magulong buhay.

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Hindi ko maintindihan bakit kailangan magpa-alam bago ka kumain. Ikaw bumili ng food. Gutom ka na. Lahat po ba ng sabihin nya ginagawa nyo at naniniwala kayo? At ano daw po reason bakit ayaw nya pa na kumain kayo? It seems may anger issue din sya at nananakit. Nakakatakot magpalaki ng baby sa ganyang environment. 😥 Hope you will find the courage to wake up and see the real situation here. Hindi lang po yan hormones. I also think you are being gaslighted.

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hindi siya magbabago wag mo nang hintayin kasi baka ikaw at ang baby pa ang mapahamak sa future... LEAVE,RUN kung gusto niya maging part ng buhay niyo dapat ngayon pa lang inaalagaan ka na niya....para kang may alagang bata ikaw pa ang susunod sa tantrums niya na well in fact ikaw dapat ang alagaan...mi be strong pray always and makakasama sa baby yung stress na ginagawa niya sayo..mag-isip ka wag mong gamitin ang puso mo ngayon utak mo ang paganahin mo...

Magbasa pa

definitely a red flag! run! now! don't be with that guy when u give birth because ur child will suffer the same trauma ur suffering now. please leave this guy for ur baby's sake and for urself as well. u dnt deserve that!! ur guy should never lay a hand on u no matter what! ur pregnant and oozing with hormones! he should have been more patient with u since ur carrying his child. what an a$*&le!!!

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He is a red flag but di ko lang talaga gets why di ka makakain when he said no. I mean you can eat quietly naman, why need mo ng permission to eat? You can step outside din naman to eat somewhere na lang kasi need mo kumain at nagugutom na rin yan si baby. Physical abuse is a big no for me, really, and if you can leave that person much better yan for you and the baby.

Magbasa pa
2w ago

What do you think? nasasaktan ka na diba so ano dapat mo gawin? since alam na nya na buntis ka bakit ka nya gaganyanin? what could be the possible reason bakit sya ganyan sayo? at kapag alam mo na ang mga sagot sa tanong na yan, siguro it's time na for you to decide. di naman namin alam simula't sapul ang mga nangyari sa inyo to judge everything i your life with your partner. you're still the one who can judge everything. please get help from your family kung maulit pa ang pananakit sayo ng walang sapat na reason. nadumihan na sofa is just a small problem para saktan ka nya lalo na alam nya preggy ka. please pray and decide what's better for you and your baby.

yun naman pala. nurse ka na at lahat lahat. i am sure na andami nio na na encounter na mga physical injuries due to domestic violence and maalam na kayo sa tinatawag na VAWC so what is making you ask pa kung red flag yung paglatay ng sinturon. wag ako sender🤣🤣🤣... sterotyping na kung stereotyping pero yan naman talaga ang totoo. wala marahil work yan pero may pension o ayuda from their government.

Magbasa pa

iwan mo na yan, bakit mo hinahayaan na hindi ka kumain eh gutom kna at pagod, unahin mo yang anak mo at sarili mo wag yang bf mong wlang kwenta. Ikaw ang bumili ng food nyo hindi sya, at kung may nga oras na dka nya pinapkain at gutom2 kna umalis kna sa bahay nya umuwi ka sa inyo pra mkakain ka ng ayos. Hayaan mo n yang bf mo, iwan mo na

Magbasa pa
3w ago

ask ko lang mih bakit po wala syang work? tapos ikaw pala nagpprovide sa inyo eh tapos ayaw ka pakainin? di nya ba naisip gutom na din baby sa tyan mo? tska physically sinaktan ka na buntis ka pa di nya ba naisip yun?sobrang red flag na yan. pag di mo pa iniwan yan hanggang sa pagtagal na maraminna kayong anak same lang gagawin nya sa mga bata at sayo.

choose to protect your mental health and well-being. no woman deserves a guy like that. kakayanin mo mi, para sa baby mo. do not wait for things to get worse. i believe you have your family with you, go back to them and i know for sure, there's no place like home- being with those who still cares for you- your parents.

Magbasa pa
3w ago

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