I’d be hurt, but I would also take all the utensils etc for everybody the next time to show that I can take care of everyone and especially my husband. Perhaps the in laws will show me more respect next time.
Perhaps she has the old mindset that daughter-in-law should serve her and not the other way round. Don't take it too hard, you don't need to be served. Show her you can serve everyone.
Agree with Alex below, probably old mindset. but don't take it too hard, next time she's at your place. serve everyone,let her know you're much better than that
if that happens to me, lol i'll very naturally take those utensils and ask my husband to take another set himself.
It is rude. But life is too short to get aggravated about it.