Infant care or MIL

I would prefer sending my baby to infant care when I return to work, but my MIL says she wants to look after her. I thought we could compromise and leave her in infant care for half the day, and let my MIL look after her for the second half of her day. She is insisting that she wants to look after my baby for the entire day. I am not comfortable with it because my FIL always shouts and curse/swear at home. And she also could not tell us what will happen to her daily marketing, because we are not comfortable to let her bring my baby out, especially to the wet market. Also, I'm not a big fan of my MIL. And a first time mum here. Very paranoid my baby will choose my MIL in future if they spend too much time together.

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I think 1/2 day Ifc is not worth it. The fees paid is almost full day price and you are only gg 1/2 day and baby need to adapt to both mil & ifc environment. If you choose ur mil, you need to accept her parenting style. And it might turns out she have the final say on alot of things as she is the main caregiver. Things that u ask her not to do, she can still do it. No matter which decision u make, u also have to take care when bb goes home. Spend quality time with bb. They know who are the parents. But they also know who treat them Well / dote on them and will naturally choose them. I feel that u can send the baby to ifc if you want. And ur pil are emergency backup plan shld the baby fall sick etc . Discuss with ur hubby

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