I am in 8th year if marriage with 2 young kids. However our marriage been a silent one. We both are working in MNc and been very busy and engaged with our work . Often a time my hub work 10 hours in the room . We had no chance to make small talk at all . He give me max. 5 min of attention when I talk about my life. He don't remember r things that I told him . He make no effort to communicate with me expect child related topic. He hid in toilet for hour and look at his HP passed midnight but not replying the msg I send . At the beginning we are already not a good couple who can communicate effectively . I had asked him to go for marriage counseling but was rejected. Now with kids , things get worst . We NV talk for month . I understand the Asian man ego who like to act tough . But I felt very disconnected with him .He is now just my kids father . We had sex once a week and I felt that we are doing so only bc as a man he need to release his sex drive. I only get 5 min hugs after we are done. We don't hold hand outside unless I initiate it. I am lost in the marriage but he think I am too sensitive and selfish , kids come first . Is that normal marriage life ? What can I do ? I felt my self esteem is so low , everything I do is wrong and selfish in his eyes.