I have tried not shouting...not spanking but my 4 year old continues to be aggressive with kids. Whenever he sees a kid his height or shorter,he will go hit him. Even when that child is not looking towards him. I have asked him why he is hitting but he looks down and keeps quiet. He is only child. But I have seen other single kids too and they do not behave like this. Is there any other parents here sailing or sailed in same boat? Otherwise he is an intelligent kid but short temperd. I have tried being patient since 3 days but he does not seem to be improving at all. Shall we take him for counselling?

i have seen some kids in our neighbourhood behave like this, and trust me, it is good that you are taking note of it right now. it is possible that your baby feels a sense of power when he does this to other kids. this is the earliest sign of bullying but of course can be improved. your baby is bursting with a lot of energy that should be channelized in a positive way. have you tried enrolling him in some activity that he enjoys? maybe get him to learn some sports, dance, skating, anything taht will involve physical exertion and discipline. this is the right age to start your kid on something, and it will also help him release the pent up energy he has. counseling is too strong, i suggest you try all this and then see.