I have been married for over 3 years now, but I still feel no love for my husband. Plus, he gets extremely agitated and sometimes even violent if I merely refer to his parents. I feel trapped in this relationship that is clearly not going anywhere! What should I do?

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I think it is high time, you must sit and talk. Your life is just sleeping by and you are just waiting that some divine power will come and set his behaviour right. You know him for three years, you would know if he is an egoistic man or just very attached to his parents but respects and love you too. And if you think he accepts his flaws and s ready to work on them. If he is this kind, then you can support him, and both of you can work at your ends to make this marriage work. But if you can see that he is rigid and one of the kinds who won't change, then it is not too late, you can break out of this relationship and give yourself a new start. Life just comes one time, you cannot waste this opportunity being sad and trapped. Break free, and live your life.

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Try talking to him when he is in a calmer mood. Of course, such persons never realize their mistakes and justify their anger. Tell him that a relationship doesn't work this way. If he still doesn't change his behavior, then there is no point in continuing with this marriage. Think it over!

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I know friends who are in the same situation as yours. They just stay together for the sake of the child. Some of them become successful in keeping the relationship even there is no more love. Sometimes it's the common goal that they have that keeps them stick with each other. Obviously, it's not a good reason to stay in a marriage. All for convenience lang sometimes.

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I too feel the same way with my husband. We have been married for 2yrs now and after the day we got married i've never felt prioritized, especially during my pregnancy there's no financial and emotional support, no open communication, no time for the family. Even now, our child is almost 2yrs. There's still no efforts coming from him. How will i know if it's time to move on?

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You should speak your mind and tell him that it is not acceptable. Sorry for being so blunt, but unless you take a stand for yourself, no one else will. I cannot blame you for not feeling any love for your husband, if this is the kind of relationship you have. Are you in the relationship for social and financial security? If you are feeling trapped and know that there is no future, have you considered moving out? Maybe you should discuss about it with your parents or sibling(s)? Even though you may feel they may not support you, there is no harm in trying. You can also visit a divorce lawyer to understand what happens in such cases. And one thing that you should definitely focus on from now, is to try and make yourself financially strong, so that you do not have to be dependent on anyone. Lots of best wishes and hugs to you!

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