I hate my maid. I really can't stand her. She is always on her handphone and like to talk back to me. She will reply things like, sorry but this is not my job (i had a headache and ask her to massage my head), then during off day she refuse to help look after baby when she is back from her off day. she is Filipino. How to train her to behave herself?

You are completely in the wrong here. She is correct, it is not her job to massage your head, and she is entitled to a whole day off! If you want a head massage, visit a place that offers that service and pay for it. Please treat your FDW like a human being, give her respect. I'd think my boss was crazy if s/he asked me to massage his head. That's not in my job description. It's not in your helpers job description either.