I can't get my husband more involved in caring for our kids, and I want his help. What can I do?

Communication is the key to solving all problems. The best way to deal with this issue is to speak with your husband and tell him directly how you feel. You can tell him that sharing parenting responsibility will not only unburden you and help you bring your best to the table each day, but also help him bond with his own children. It can be easy for husbands to slack off and ultimately put all the responsibility on the mother, but that's where you need to take proactive action and be clear about responsibilities. Divide the work. So for instance, if you get them ready, your husband can drop them to school. If you take them for their after school activities, he can attend all the PTAs and so on. Sit together to chalk a plan to bets deal with shared responsibilities so just one person doesn't have to deal with it all.