I am 29 years old with a 1 year old kid. The problem is that I put on upto 22 kgs during pregnancy and haven't lost much weight ever since. My husband earlier used to comment and urge me to join a gym etc, but now he has even stopped that. Obviously he finds me unattractive and is not turned on by me. we have hardly had any sex since the birth of our kid and recently my husband has shifted into the spare bedroom. I too don't feel like dressing up or going out. I feel like my marriage will end soon. What do I do?

dear Renu, sorry to put it this way, but if you already feel your marriage will end, then it probably will. unless you take any steps to help it that is... many times, we feel our partners are vain when they want us to look fit and nice, but what is wrong in that? don't we also like to see someone who is fit and well turned out? i can understnad you are a busy mom, but you can surely get time for yourself to do some basic things to get fitter and lose weight. if you cant join a gym, start doing things at home. there are many many workouts you can do at home. just go online and take a look. and yes, you have to love yourself and only then will you get your confidence back. so please dear, don't give up.