My husband took half day leave to help me take care of our boy so that I can have a rest. While I was cooking noodles for our baby, he was at the living with our baby looking after him. Then he decided he should play his clash of royal game on his ipad and neglected our baby. Baby was climbing all over him seeking for attention. I heard some hitting sound so I went out to take a look. Our baby climbed up the TV console and when I stepped out of the kitchen and scolded my husband of being so engrossed with his games that he didn't even care when baby is on top of the TV console. Just when I finished my sentence, baby fell backwards straight down to the floor and hit the back of his head. I was outside the play yard too far away to dash across the room to save him. The next thing my husband did shocked me too. He actually grab hold of his underarm and shock him hard scolding him naughty instead. Baby just turned 1 year old. Is he naughty? Is it my baby's fault? Or was it my husband's negligence? Then he commented that he shouldn't agree to my request of asking to take leave to help me with taking care of our cranky teething baby. And he is not going to help me anymore. I feel that he is very childish. Not the 1st time I got such childish remark from him. Totally irremorseful. And we quarrelled every 2-3 days. I feel like I marry the wrong guy.

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I feel you. My husband used to be like that but happy to share that he improve quite a lot over the past two years. For my firstborn, he is totally hand off. However, for my second child he is my confinement "man" and nanny. I used to nag and nag at home to stop doing something which I realised it only push him over and make him stop wanting to help. Hence, I make a shift in my way of communication; instead of asking for help to take care of children. I request him to do his part as a Father by first playing with the kids and praise him on that. When my children are bigger, I told them to send voice or video messages to him when they missed him. Slowly, the bonding is there and my husband start to treasure their time together as he hardly have time for them now due to busy work schedule. As mine are two girls, maybe daddy tends to love girls more since they know how to make him feel "important" with the sweet sweet words. I guess you can sit down with him to understand how he feel and want to parent your kids together. Nobody know your husband more than you, you just need some time to calm down and find a way to get him "work for you" without noticing it. :-)

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Home Random Talk husband took half day leave help take care boy that i have rest while i was cooking noodles baby was living with baby looking after him then decided should play clash royal game ipad neglected baby baby was climbing over him seeking attention i heard some hitting sound i went out take look baby climbed tv console when i stepped out kitchen scolded husband being engrossed with games that didnt care when baby top tv console when i finished sent