My husband recently moved to China for work for 2 years and 2 weeks into his relocation, he cheated on me. I found out about the affair 2 months later and he was apologetic and confirmed he has ended it. However, he refused to move back to SG as he really likes his job and value the career opportunities. He is though willing to come back every alternate weekend to spend time with the family. Apart from feeling betrayed, I also feel that he doesn't prioritize the family since he chose to stay in China and not come back to work things out with me. Should I cont' to stay in this marriage? Am I wrong to hope/expect him to come back completely in order to save the marriage? *long story which is hard to explain here but I can't move to China... or at least I can't move this current moment...

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Hi! Just my opinion. I think, your husband should prioritize your family over career. Don't get me wrong, we all need jobs so that we can raise our family. I'm pretty sure that he'll be able to get a work when he comes back. If he got a job overseas, more likely he'll get one there too. I suggest that you work out your marriage first. Yes he cheated, it's normal to get mad and paranoid. But, don't let that be the ground for divorce. Talk to your husband and ask him sincerely if he really values your own family. I firmly do believe, if he says he loves you and your children, he will say sorry for what he has done and will try his best to reconcile with you. If you still love him and you do also value your family, let there be forgiveness and start anew. Just my opinion though.

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9y ago

Thank you. So from a guy's POV, if after giving him the option of "stay in China and split up" or "come back to SG to work out the marriage" and he said "I don't want to split but if it makes u feel better, we will split cos I am staying in China" means there's nothing much left for me to hold on to him/marriage?

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Home Random Talk husband recently moved china work 2 years 2 weeks into relocation cheated i found out about affair 2 months later was apologetic confirmed has ended however refused move back sg really likes job value career opportunities though willing come back every alternate weekend spend time with family apart from feeling betrayed i feel that doesnt prioritize family since chose stay in china not come back work things out with should i cont stay in marriage