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Totally understand how you feel. My situation is different but had a few run-ins with my in-laws. Some things that helped me to navigate these situations and regulate my emotions are as follows: 1. While I may not like their actions and words, they are still my husband's family. So I will do my best to be kind. 2. Always look for win-win situations, and try to understand what their true meaning is when they do something. Most of the time I realise it is out of fear of losing my husband or they miss him but cannot communicate it. So do not take things personally. 3. When I am not in the right head space to deal with them, I will ask my husband to allow me to skip on the family meals and go back to my parents. 4. Modus Operandi: Maintain a cordial and harmonious relationship always. Jiayou! Hope it helps. I realised my situation was not unique when I shared it with a taxi driver who wisely said, "you think you special ah?! Which daughter in law got such good relationships?! Only 1 in 10!" Hope it brings some comfort to know you are not alone in facing such a situation!

Need to tell your husband that you and him really need to wrk together to make this marriage wrk. You guys dont need anyone but only each other, if not what's the point 9f marriage. Otherwise like i alwaes sae, why dont the husbands jz marry their mothers if they always wanna listen to their moms. Stay strong for each other ok💪🏻

Staying with in laws is never easy. It’s always best to stay on your own with your own small family. I’m currently staying with in laws too. Not much problem but I’m seriously considering renting a place while waiting for our BTO. I really crave for freedom and privacy. Lacking of such is affecting me at times.

My mil does the innocent act but seriously I just ignore her. I realize the more I react to it (and negatively) to my husband, the more I’m putting things awkward for him. Minimise contact as much as possible for me, even though she helps care for my child 3 days a week

Try to minimize contact with mil to avoid conflicts. If there is any action/behavior u find it is not appropriate, ask ur hubby to talk to her nicely and explain with reasoning instead. Do not go to her directly.

My MIL love to do it this way too. But fortunately my hubby know her pattern and will tell her off. We do not stay with my in laws as they always try their best to stir s*** which pisses me off.

Oh dearrr... Any way you can talk to your husband regarding this or do you all have plans to move out? Important to have your husband's and family's support during tHis time.

I had the same situation. I end up moving back to me own place with my baby and things got better between me and my hub. He start to notice things happening too.

My sarcastic MIL has said unpleasant things to me, and always talk nonsense to my baby. I refused to let her care for my baby, and i ignore her nowadays.

Hang on! It's tough, but you can't do much because if you start doing something, the one who's caught in the middle is your husband. :(