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For a detailed plan,you can access my PhD thesis. I will give you an abridged version here. a) Assess your partner. Every person is different. A turn on for one might be a turnoff for other. Understand, observe and document the visual and non visual cues of happiness. Visual cues are smiling, laughing, giggling, twinkling eyes, relaxed shoulders, lack of agitation. non visual cues include the tone, longing for conversation, she touching your hand more than 3 times in an hour of conversation. b) understand your limits. Whilst there may be a lot of things that make her happy, you might have a few limitations. to successfully keep your mate happy, you have to understand that it is not a one time thing. you need to maintain and possibly increase the level of efforts. you cannot make a grand gesture and then tone it down. c) assess the surroundings. 60-70% of the notions of happiness are obtained by observing the surroundings. Your mate might respond differently to a similar situation if her surroundings (friends, siblings, rivals) are in a particular state of happiness/despair. It is your job to pivot her notion of happiness to actual happiness. d) prepare when you set the expectations right, you need to show commitment. when you are conversing, keep your phone aside. Develop genuine interest in her interests, or let her know your disinterest. DON'T FAKE INTEREST. You won't be able to keep up the appearance. Involve your mate in things that pleasure you. The best relationships are forged over common interests. Do some activities together that make both of you happy. e) Seek help and advice If you are lost or stuck, ask her where you are going wrong. Guy friends might give you quick fixes, but gifts and diamonds are a recipe for disaster! Parent town is another good community to seek help! f) be genuine. If all of this does not work, maybe you are doing something wrong. Or maybe, she does not understand the efforts you are putting in. in that case, go to the drawing board and start again by finding the right mate.
be her bestfriend, companion. listen to her talk. bring her gifts even if its not her birthday or any occasion. simple things like watching tv together alone is gonna make your wife very happy coz she feels appreciated and wanted. help her with chores and kid if you have any without her asking. be loyal. woman wants your time they will like you to be ard most of the time coz when she gets married to you, you are her everything. so don't be angry if she likes to cling onto you 24/7. its just natural for woman to be like that. sometimes they don't even realise it. :)
As a woman, we have simple joys. I still believe that the top 3 factors to maintaining a strong and happy relationship are Love, Trust and Respect. Aside from these 3, I believe in having regular dates with your wife would help a lot. That's where you get to know her more each time and you get to talk about things that only for the 2 of you. This keeps the love burning no matter how long you've been married.
i think most important is communication. Man tend to keep to themselves while woman like to speculate. talk and find out what she think and feel and iron out the difference. man and woman dont think alike.. when u talk u get your answer and not guess what she wants. sometimes woman just want a listening ear, a hug leting her feel u still love her and care.
Give her time, go out with her. Apart from being together at home, take her on surprise dates. Be it to a coffee shop or to a movie, theatre. Appreciate little things she does for you. Sometimes, cook with her in the kitchen. Crack jokes, make her laugh, and love her. Most importantly, listen to her heart.
I always make time for a date night with my wife, ideally once a week or at least twice a month. My wife love to watch movie .So I will let her choose the movie that she want to see.She will satisfy and happy after watching the movie .Hehe
Ask about her day, how it went, and if she met interesting people. A small gesture but can really mean alot to her. This shows how you care for her and really interested on what goes through her mind and her experiences.
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Introduce her with some compliments. Ask her how you can help. Bring her to watch movie or dinner. Show her that you appreciate and grateful for everything she do.
Make her laugh, keep her safe, make her feel secure, stay loyal and most importantly love her through all her crazies and flaws :)