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Anay Bhalerao, Singapore
Father of a firecracker. Also a Doctor.
About Anay Bhalerao
We are trying to raise an assertive child. However, that means that the toddlers an opinion about everything he uses, inclusing nappies! For instance, we get 2 different designs in the diaper pack. He would readily wear the one with elephants on it, but throws a big fit when he has to wear the fox one! Same thing when it comes to clothes, socks (he chooses 2 different ones). I don't want to scold him, as it is quite trivial. He is a really well-behaved child otherwise. How to best deal with this is a question. Appreciate your inputs!Read more
For things like the designs on diapers, I think you could just explain why there's different designs and that they all serve the same purpose! They are a lot smarter and intuitive than we think, so you could try explaining that they are all diapers and serve the same purpose - you may not like the design on it but sometimes, in life, we aren't given the privilege/option to choose. Let him choose something else like the design of the pants that he wears with the fox diapers, making it a "unique/special" one instead of the regular elephant :) Alternatively, just get diapers without special designs! As for clothes, I don't think there's an issue because nobody ever says that clothes/socks have to match! If he's happy wearing striped on one leg and red on another - so be it :) I see it as a way of being creative than sticking to the norm, small things like that which may make the difference between raising a child that sticks to what society does, and one that does what he loves :)Read more
My 2 yo has suddenly developed a fear for strange noises. He thinks it is a mouse, and rushes to close the door leading to a passage in our flat. How to get rid of this fear? We never talk of any monsters, nor try to intimidate him with anything. He is not even scolded at, at home or daycare. Thanks for the help.Read more
i helped mine to overcome by being friends with the thing. mine started to develop fear for cats. i told her how the cat feels and cat would love her to be gentle. i also told her that the cat can be her friend. she talks to the cat and said hi. soon, the second time, she took initiative to say hi friend. and she was over it. anything can make them cry in midnight. being too excited or even a documentary before mine sleeps. she woke up crying. but 2yo, there will be a period for night terrorRead more
Is it due to some tv shows? coz sometimes some shows that they watch can traumatised them too.
It could be related to an experience that he went through somewhere, or witnessed happening. While growing up (even till now), I have a fear of not having the main door and gate locked - always checking several times whether it's been locked and being the one to close it has always been my most feared thing - because my grandma used to misplace our keys a lot, a couple of times it was near our unit or even from the door. That was how I developed the fear and while it doesn't happen so often now, sometimes I'd still get nightmares about people trying to break into our house! It could likely be something he came across in school, an advertisement somewhere, a children song with a video of mouses entering people's homes or noticing a mouse somewhere else - kids notice a lot more things than we do, including our surroundings and their parents' feelings! Having said that, I think it's something you have to address and help him get through the fear. If he is able to express his thoughts (since you mentioned that he thinks it's a mouse), you can carry him to the source of the strange noises and show it to him so that he's not as afraid after he knows what it is :) My son is afraid of sudden, loud noises that he cannot identify - but if I stay calm, keep him in my arms and within safe distance and explain it to him calmly then he'll understand it's not something to be afraid of :) While it wasn't triggered by anything, it's likely that it's just part of growing up where they start developing fears - and that's where we come in to help them understand things that aren't as scary as they think!Read more
play a game with him, you can try 'Going on a Bear Hunt' with actions and song along the corridor, and leave a teddy bear at the end of the song in a box behund the door and let him find it. it's fun and not scary at all. this way he can learn that his fear was not real. hope it helpsRead more
There are nightmares as well...
Sweets keeps him quiet a while.
My son hates the pacifier too. The only thing that soothes him is my boobs.
Ha ha. Is there some food that someone is is having that is close to the sound of it? Like coffee ?
I looked up "convfefe baby," hoping to see a funny meme with Trump and a baby - but I got pictures of Converse baby shoes instead! Hahaha, I guess Google hasn't caught up with the Trumpisms.
that my baby watches way too much TV
It would refer to some food for sure - a confectionary of some sort!
Your baby is very up to date with Donald Trump's tweets.
LOL. I'd say it means "Mama is going to make coffee and fettuccine!"
Hmm. Hard to guess! does bb point it to anything while saying?
Have you check with the airlines of bringing FBM on flight? You would need to calculate the journey of flight and the duration to travel to the airport. Secondly, you would need to get a styrofoam box and get LOTS OF dry ice. Frozen ice pack. Pack it nice and tight. Seal it tight. Probably you need to label it nice and clear on what does it contains in case it needs to be checked by the customs. I hope this helps!Read more
To hard and fast rules. You can read up online or chat with people with experiences. Many a times, people with experiences will provide you with better information than books as they are real life experiences that they gained from their own children. This is definitely very well informed. Reading online will help you to gain extra knowledge and make your life easier in certain ways too.Read more
Manual? Wow! No specific manual I would say. Do lots of read up either online or you can actually take the opportunity to get to the library, get some aircon in this super hot weather and read in the comfort. There are so much more choices of books available in the library. Check out the parenting section.Read more
Here's a basic guide prepared by Singapore Children's Society providing some tips on handling a baby (from birth to one year old). In it you will find six common scenarios that you will encounter as a new parent and how to handle them: https://www.childrensociety.org.sg/resources/front/template/scs/files/parenting%20guide%20on%20babies.pdf Though it does not cover everything you will need to know, but it is easy to read and provide some useful basic information to help start you off. :)Read more
I bought this bestseller, "The Baby Book: Everything You Need to Know About Your Baby from Birth to Age Two" for my friends who were going to be first time parents and they thought that it was informative and really useful. This book apparently contains all the latest information on everything from diapers to day-care, birthing methods - midwifery to hospital birthing rooms, from postpartum nutrition to infant development. The writers, Doctors Bill and Martha Sears draw from their vast experience both as medical professionals and as the parents of eight children to provide comprehensive information on virtually every aspect of infant care.Read more
What I would suggest is to be sensitive and reassuring. She may start worrying more about the weight gain and become more conscious of her growing bump. Continue to shower her with hugs and kisses and constantly let her know that you still find her beautiful (or even more beautiful now). Go for walks with her as it could help ease some physical discomfort such as back aches. Midnight snack I would recommend hard boiled egg, veggie sticks (like carrots) or apple/pear slices with cottage cheese, or a bowl of cereal with milk. :)Read more
Discuss any concerns both of you may be having with regard to the upcoming new arrival. Have a list of things to prepare so that neither of you will feel too overwhelmed. Sleep is important to her so see if she is sleeping comfortably and getting ample rest every night as this will also contribute to her mental well being. As for midnight snacks, slices of fruits with yogurt would be a good option. If she prefers something crunchy, a handful of nuts (such as pistachio or almond) is great as well. Take care! Can see that you are a sweet and thoughtful husband. Let her know that you are supporting her every step of the way will definitely help keep her relaxed too. :)Read more
Just keep her relaxed, happy and healthy before she gives birth :) Also, if there are errands that needs to be ran before the baby comes, help her out with that cos it will probably be difficult for her to move around like before. As for the midnight snack, opt for something protein rich as this will keep your wife full all the way till morning. Try foods like low-fat yoghurt, nuts, whole-wheat toast with peanut butter, turkey sandwich on whole wheat bread.Read more