Hi mummies, I need advice on a non breastfeeding issue. My father in law has been taking care of my daughter since I went back to work when she was 2 months old. Since then, baby has had problems latching on, tried for so long to get her to latch again but to no avail, so now I'm exclusively pumping. My father in law insists that fat babies are healthy babies and has been feeding her a lot since I went back to work, even when she cries and turns away, he will still force the bottle in her mouth. baby is > 97th percentile and the PD has asked us to limit her intake. Somehow, my father in law refuses to respect my husbands and my wishes when it comes to our baby. He insisted on feeding her water before she's 6 months old, wanted to give her solids before then also and he insists that we should give her the pacifier. I live with my in laws and I get very stressed out worrying if he is giving her water or solids, or not letting her sleep. It's so bad that I changed my job so I can be around more to take care of my baby. Every morning before I go to work, I will prepare her morning feed of 160ml (she was drinking 210ml previously) and go to work. Imagine my surprise when I was home and realized that he topped up the milk to 210ml again. And he does this for every feed till I come home. And if she wakes up 1.5 hours later, he will insist that she is hungry again. On weekends when I bring her home to my mother's she drinks 160 per feed and it will last her at least 3 hours. I know that he will never do anything to hurt her on purpose but I am getting very annoyed that he doesn't respect our decisions. How do I handle this ? Even when the PD tells him, he insists he knows better. Help. (Sorry for the long post)

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First you need to move out from your father in laws house. Narasan ko rin yan but I made a decision not to live with my in laws and I'am right for doing that. Ask help to your mom if you can live to your house for the meantime. Act now before its to late, why? because you may not see the side effect with your baby right now. Habang lumalaki anak saka mo pa lang makikita epekto nito, tulad ng pagpaakain ng before 6months. According sa study solid food given too early may cause allergies and eczema, and researchers say there may be a link to chronic diseases like diabetes and celiac disease. May possibilities din na magkaraon ng early heart problem due to over weight. Alam natin na hindi gusto ipahamak baby mo kundi ang mapabuti ito kaso mali na eh kaya ikaw na magdesisyon ngayon pa lang. Hindi kita tinatakot sis kundi gusto ko lang malaman mo ang pwedeng mangyari if you will not act now. Its hard to be a working mom pero unahin mo muna si baby. Kaya mo yan..

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