hubby debarred from sg and since separate for 2yr

We have a 2yr old kid which I am taking care and he send money to us every month. We are living separately permanently. Should i continue wait for him and live in this manner with no idea what the future will be like? Had tried all ways to appeal him back and no use. I am not able to relocate overseas to live with him

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The marriage would definitely wear out especially when both parties are unable to be around each other. Your child would always suffer from the absence of the father. Both parties got to decide and give in to relocation, for the benefit of the marriage. Otherwise, he or you will snap some day.

5y ago

Thanks for the encouragement. For now I only can put my kids wellbeing over my own feelings. That's what parents should be doing for their kids. For me I only can gain some strength from my religion faith to move on.

Why relocating is out of question? If the sanctity of marriage is important. Have u traveled there with your kid for a visit? Maybe this withering feeling will be rekindled. Face to face talk-thru will be better.

5y ago

Perhaps we can visit like once or twice a yr tat kind but how can a marriage survive with seeing so limited times. I am fairly independent but most woman will need a partner around to provide emotional support especially with kids to upbring. Hubby intention is continue the marriage however his response is cold and minimal as we are separate and theres also not much he can do abt it. In extreme dilemma as to what course of action I should take for kid and mine future

Did he planning to come back in future? I'm sure he did have his planing. Discuss with him.

5y ago

Yes of cos he long to return and reunite with us. However is not possible at the moment and not sure when can he return. Therefore is really hard for us to make planning

Super Mum

It depends on what u want your future be like. Communicate with him

5y ago

I told him I cannot do long distance relationship but he only ask me to wait. Some nights he will send me pictures to assure me his faithful. But I feel this marriage is getting weak with time passes longer

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How do your Communicate then??

5y ago

We text or video call...