We had an affair for 8 years before getting married and my husband fought against all odds for having me in his life. But when our baby was almost 15 months, he cheated on me. I found out but because I was never 100 percent sure, I did not leave him. Though, all is over, that girl is no more, but the fact still troubles me that the man in whom I put my all faith in, cheated me. How do I get rid of these thoughts?

Hi I think it is not possible to get rid of these thoughts. You can only try to make yourself busy all the time to distract yourself from having such thoughts and with time the pain will heal though I doubt totally gone. Focus on the husband good points but frankly the trust is broken. Sorry to say that but if he can cheat with you he can cheat with somebody else too. So if I were you I will still be on the ball for such incidents. But for the sake of your child , try to hold the family together and think positive thoughts whenever you can