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Hi dear I came across this post and I know it’s been a few months already since you posted this. Just concerned, how are you doing right now? Are you back with your husband or still fending for yourself and your kid? I hope all is going well for you, I’m not sure if you’ve given birth but I really do hope there’s a shining beacon of hope coming your way soon. If you want out with your husband then go through the proper channels, marriage counselling, religious counselling (if any), and if all else fails, file for a divorce and raise your kid by yourself. My husband is still watching porn up till now, chatting with girls online too. I don’t have any social media and I’m happy that I don’t. My life revolves around my 17 month old and my 2nd pregnancy. My husband treats me like a roommate, talks to me like his enemy and no physical affection whatsoever. I learn to leave everything to God day by day, I learn to be patient that someday he will knock himself against the wall. I’m struggling with my raging pregnancy hormones everyday and it doesn’t help that my husband doesn’t even talk nicely to me or touch my tummy. I really hope everything goes well for you. ❤️

oh dear… have u considered beating your husband up? just kidding. i sincerely hope you’re holding up okay right now. its tough alrdy being pregnant whatsmore having a bastard as a husband. i hope you find the courage to leave him. you deserve so much better. my friend has the same experience. but she tahan till she gave birth, collected all the evidence of her ex husband cheating and filed for a divorce once her child turned one month. she req for alimony from the court and her husband had to pay her $2000 every month (including child support) u might ask why it is high. firstly he works in the gvt sector and his salary after cpf is like $3k+ and then he caused her srs mental health problems during her pregnancy which she has letters and official documents backing her up. so yeah, her kid is 3 now and she is a SAHM who also does HBB. her husband is suffering and is always begging her to come back cause the women he cheated on her with left him cause he always no money…. lol… men will be men, we just gotta be stronger and fight back! praying for the best for you!

Hi! It’s been some time & ive been keeping myself busy with my child. I gave birth alone & my mom has been a pillar of strength. My husband is currently my “housemate” and does his own things. I thought having a child would change him but I’m the one who pays for the kid’s maintenance, hospital bills etc. He hasn’t carry out his responsibilities as a husband since marriage neither does he carry out his responsibilities as a father now. I don’t know what else to do with my husband and has filed for a divorce but it’s not being reciprocated. Currently, I’m just living day by day with my child, occasionally going back to my mom’s for my own sanity. Not gna lie, this whole “depression” thing drags on till now but I’m only keeping myself busy with my child. I’m honestly grateful for everyone here who have dropped by, it’s been a while someone asks me “how I’m doing” and I really appreciate it! Wouldn’t say I’m better but I’ve kept myself busy to be hurt over trivial matters I guess 🙂

Hey, if you needed to vent or rant over any thing, do post here as it goes to show there are still bunch of mummies here who are concerned about your situation. Since your little one is here, do keep yourself occupied with your little bundle of joy. Your child will truly love you for being a strong mummy. Seeing them growing happy and healthy each day is a motivation and achievement. You will definitely come out of this as a better stronger person. What doesn’t kills you makes you stronger. Focus on the good things in life, like your mum and your child. I believe in a way or another, all mummies have their challenges in life, that’s why we needed the support that we can gather to get us going. You are doing great 👍🏻, hugs to you and hold on tight. Just remember that there’s a whole village of mummies here supporting your back. 😉

Your husband doesn't deserve you, and staying away from toxic people should be your priority, they always drag others down with them. While I don't want to give advice on how to deal with your family situation, since that's a very personal thing, I would recommend seeing a professional. A therapist can help you get out of the state you're stuck in emotionally which in turn will help the baby. Hope things get better for you. Take care of yourself and the baby.

hi there, sorry to hear about what you're going through. It must have been really difficult. Personally, I would never be able to accept and continue living with a partner who has cheated on me. So, I would just walk out of this relationship and raise the kid on my own. I hope you find strength to work things out and seek help from your love ones during this difficult time. Hugs babe, stay strong..

This post may be some time back ago. But this post is happening in real life and it makes me so angry and sad for what she has to go through. Not sure if the owner of this post can see this but I’m very willing to go beat the hell out of your husband for you. How are you coping right now? I wished I can be your friend.

Must have been hard on you.. Please take care of yourself and bb. He is not impt then leave him. Cos it the future you might keep have to check or suspect him Then life will be difficult It’s would nv be difficult for him Only u will suffer alone.

I’m so sorry you’re in such a difficult situation. In times like this, it’s important to find your support. Your family.. close friends.. if you don’t have any, reach out to the community. I’ll be more than happy to be your pillar to lean on.

im sorry you have to go through this.. im lost for words. we are all here for you. how i wish i can give you a hug now.. please stay strong!! *hugsss*