We had an affair for 8 years before getting married and my husband fought against all odds for having me in his life. But when our baby was almost 15 months, he cheated on me. I found out but because I was never 100 percent sure, I did not leave him. Though, all is over, that girl is no more, but the fact still troubles me that the man in whom I put my all faith in, cheated me. How do I get rid of these thoughts?

i cant say that you will be able to forget it ever, though if you are busy with other things you will not think about it too often. that insecurity may always stay with you though. it can be difficult to move on and have a healthy relationship if you are not able to forget what happened. talk to him honestly about your feelings, and tell him that from now on, you want your relationship to be absolutely honest and transparent. i think both of you will benefit from visiting a therapist. do think about it.