feeling sad. my hubs has this tendency to show a black face,show attitude, talk rudely (despite how nice i talk to him) when he's tired. EVERY SINGLE TIME. I've talked to him abt this before and he will jus say that "dun see my face then"; "then dont talk to me" etc. just now when i was feeding my toddler dinner he looked tired so i told me to go to the room to take a nap but he said he's ok. he was still fine then. after tt he went off to do some household chores and he was tired after that. i appreciate him for doing the work but i feel very upset whenever he vent his tiredness by being grouchy pissed rude in responding etc after that. i then told him, i already told u to rest jus now u didnt want. i appreciate that u do the household chores but now that u are tired why vent on me again?he just replied "shhh!" loudly telling me to shutup. im tired too but when i am tired i dont show it cus i know how it feels. furthermore im in my third trimester gg thru nausea feeling tired etc. when he's in a good mood he is good. but he has mood swings and it gets bad. sigh

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Congrats on your pregnancy!!! I would suggest, if you know that him being tired is the trigger for the emotional outburst. Then avoid him like he's the biggest epidemic whenever he's in that state. Sounds extreme but you get what I mean. Men are wired differently from us. If they're tired, they may prefer to have some time alone, either to space out or do some menial task. The fact that he's assisting with household chores when he's tired is already an act of love for you. To ask for more by seeking his attention is like entering a lion's den waiting to be slaughtered because they do not have the bandwidth to cater your feelings. The next time you sense a storm coming. Stay clear and do something happy for yourself, read a book or watch TV. Do that until the storm blows away. Happy Mummy = Happy Baby

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Home Random Talk feeling sad hubs has tendency show black faceshow attitude talk rudely despite how nice i talk him when tired every single time ive talked him abt before jus say that dun see face then then dont talk etc now when i was feeding toddler dinner looked tired i told go room take nap but said ok was still fine then after tt went off some household chores was tired after that i appreciate him doing work but i feel very upset whenever vent tiredness