In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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infant care is not bad..the kids develop faster as they have an early start..as for pantangs..some apply some doesn't.. depends on your general knowledge and science..so choose wisely..as its your family future

Normal lah... My wife also cannot tahan my mother & I sometimes also cannot tahan my mother in law. Give & take lah, but agree you should send to childcare than deal with your mother in law 😂

If you leave your baby to her to take care, you kinda need to let her do it her way. If you cannot stand it, then send to infant care or a nanny Personally I would choose infant care.

I can relate as I’m having same issue as you. But I can’t complain too much unless I can take care of baby myself :( sometimes just have to close one eye as long as baby is fine.

Do what you think is best for your baby. You are the mother, not your MIL. Dont let her control everything. I think the price is not up to 1k if you both are wrking if I'm not wrong.

It's normal to feel bad about our inlaws' beliefs and it's okay not to follow them. Just be firm and do your own thing. You are the mother you know better.

Take your stand. Dont let in law step over you. Else u will lose the respect. If need to, remove kid from them. Being disrespected sucks big time. Going through now.

just send infant care for ur sanity, seriously. I put my older baby to PG care for me to take care of my infant.. get subsidy, both parents work will get it.. go pcf or mfs.

bring MIL when see PD and let's PD explain to her about solid. every child is different.. in the end when they child is older.. nobody ask when is your baby starting solid?

this is normal. you can decide what you want for the child - send infant care or mil take care. if mil take care, sometimes need to close 1 eye if it is not critical

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