In-laws

Does anyone have issues with parents-in-law? My LO (currently 5 months old) is taken care by my MIL when me and hubby is at work. My MIL used to be a babysitter so she’s quite good at babies. However, she got her own set of pantangs and way of educating the child, which is very different from me. I don’t believe in pantangs at all. She doesn’t believe in what We say when we explain to her. For example, there was once baby did not poo for a week, she got so ganchiong and kept calling over the weekend telling us to try this try that. We already explained to her nicely that this is normal for BF babies but her mindset is stuck with need to poo Everyday blablabla. This is just one example. Another example is, she kept saying baby should start on solids now. Me and my husband’s take is to follow baby’s cues, we don’t have a definite to start solids at 4 months or 6 months. We did try a little puree but feel that baby is not yet ready for it. But MIL keep saying that should start alr. So irritating? Sometimes, this really irritates me and I want to send my baby to infant care instead. Is like, why must I explain what I’m doing to her and why she keep giving suggestions that I don’t want to hear. I have my own style in doing things and parenting. But my hubby refuses as infant care is expensive and he thinks it’ll be better for baby to be under grandma’s care. I do agree with him but I think it’s only for my sanity. ? Does anyone has similar experience?

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Hi I’m facing the exact same issues and more. I decided to send to infant care. Felt it was better for me mentally and my baby became much more independent too.

Mil always say last time not like this ,last time ppl do this, last time dun have like this.... i feel angry and speechless when i get this kind of reply...

Hmm.. I think the best way is to follow doctor’s advice. 4 months baby may not be able to start solid if they are still not able to hold their neck well.

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pls go for infant care instead. if you have to handle your MIL instead of your husband stepping in to do so, then pls talk to your hubs to manage your MIL.

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Yes.. There are so much things to complain but I'm really tired to do so as no one in the house could understand. Just pray that she can stop bossy around

Yes, we all face these kind of issues sometimes. I would suggest talking to your husband about it or you can look for infant day care options as well

Smile at mil, one ear in and one ear out. No point fighting. Then continue doing what you feel is best for baby

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Live and let live. Cos remember you will still have to coexist with MIL even after the baby is grown up. So erm just in one ear out another lor.

my MIL is the same lol. want me to bring up my daughter the exact same way she brought up her sons. she cannot accept times have changed

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My kids usually stay overnight in 3 different households throughout the week & the style differs from household to household...

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