Ask the Expert: building a healthy attachment
Attachment refers to an emotional bond between a child and his or her parent, with its purpose being to make a child safe, secure and protected. To answer your questions on attachment and why it is a foundation for your child's development, we have Yasmeen Kassim - child psychologist, who will be our Expert for this session 👩🏼⚕️ So leave your questions in the comment section below before the session on 28 September (Monday)! 🤩
50 years of research has shown that children with a secure attachment: • Enjoy more happiness with their parents • Feel less anger at their parents • Get along better with friends • Have stronger friendships • Are able to solve problems with friends • Have better relationships with brothers and sisters • Have higher self-esteem • Know that most problems will have an answer • Trust that good things will come their way • Trust the people they love • Know how to be kind to those around themRead more
Will children be confused with us (parents) and grandparents style of attachment?
Research has shown that children start developing a preference for their mothers in infancy, then thereafter their fathers, and other caregivers, in that order. Ideally everyone would respond to child’s needs. But what is most important is that mum and dad are able to in consistent ways.
What are some things to look out for to know that I am on the right track of building attachment with my little one?
One way is to observe how your child reacts when you drop them off at school/ playdates. A securely-attached child will be likely to explores the room freely when you are present, he/she may be distressed when you leave, but happy when you return.
What are some ways to build attachment with children from young?
respond to your baby’s needs in warm, sensitive and consistent ways. As a baby, their needs are to protect them from physical, mental and emotional harm and that they can count on you, comfort them when they are distressed. As they grow older, their needs become more complex. But what is important is to continue to be aware of and meet their needs.
I plan to have the grandparents look after my child when I return to work. Is this helpful for the child in building a healthy attachment with myself/ hubby? What can my hubby & I do to build a healthy attachment with so much time away? Thanks!Read more
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