Upset and heart brokem

Back to work after 3months of taking care of my baby Upon returning home my baby is happy to see me she will smile. But when feeding time she will scream and cry till mil take over. When sleeping time she will scream and cry too till my mil take over. Night time I take care of baby .. She will wake up a few times keep kicking. .. tried feeding. Her but she will skip her milk doesn't wan to drink .. den she will falls back to sleep. Feeling she is rejecting me wad can I do ? And I dislike my mil saying... U don't like mummy huh why don't let mummy carry? And keep saying I always carry baby, baby will get use to it. No ppl is free to always carry. And keep mention to hire a helper so she is free to carry her the whole day. I don't knw but is anyone facing this kinda issue ? My mil and fil is staying with us .. daytime she is the caregiver. Night time I am the caregiver. And I don't have a caring husband basically he only play with baby for awhile den he will go back and do his stuff.. and always mentioning I am too over protective towards my baby . I feel upset and broken. I don't understand y I have this type of husband ... He is not ready to be a dad ? He always tell me findin ways to earn money for baby. Or am I wrong? Am I wrong to feel all this ? Sometimes I just feel like leaving and I feel that mayb being a single mum is much more better .. I can decide and won't be judge by in laws by husband.. y must we have a family ? His mum always say if this house no her we will die -.- she does all the housework I am grateful but if really no in-laws I feel mayb we will be more independent. In-laws doesn't have a house. Feel my husband is not ready to be a dad Being thru iui,IVF,and finally got pregnant and finally csect and finally baby is here y do I feel that my husband is still like a kid. He keep on complaint that I stick to baby..and over protective .. am I? On the verge on breaking down I just feel like walking away and lead my own life with my baby. A new mum which is lost in the middle of the woods...what should I do? Am I wrong?

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It's not only MIL, my own mother gives me alot of stress too. Don't take whatever they say to heart. After giving birth, there's alot going on, have to really shoulder on when the going gets tough. My baby was in NICU and very difficult to take care since birth till at least 8 months old. No helper, No in-laws or parents' help except for the 1st month and during some weekends. Sometimes husband is just like a big kid so after having a little one, you just have 1 BIG kid and 1 little kid to manage. You can try talking to your husband that you need help from him (not just playing with the baby). For me, I just have to constantly 'remind' him on his duties too (not just earning $$). My hubby did sound out to me that it's baby all the time and he feels neglected. So, mummy do Take Care! Your physical, mental, emotional health is important so that you have the stamina to bond and grow with your baby. It's a long journey! Have Faith. Btw, I am my baby's main caregiver but my baby simply adores daddy more, call him first too! I am perfectly fine with it too, because there are also times my little one cuddle and cling on me. So, your baby will not reject you. Don't worry, it just take time for baby to adjust to this whole new world. It will take time for you and your hubby to adapt to your new roles too. Have patience.

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