Baby prefers helper to us - the parents!

My baby girl turned 5mths old and she’s growing very attached to our helper who has been taking care of her for 3mths now. Our girl will always look out for her and cry uncontrollably when we carry her until our helper takes over, this is especially so when she’s sleepy and wants her to carry her to sleep - then her cries stops magically. I’ve just returned to work and I’m extremely upset & hurt by this. What can we do? Our helper is doing a great job but at the same time I feel hurt and upset that my baby treats me like a stranger and we don’t want to be overly reliant on our helper as well - Upset 1st time mother :(

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Baby will naturally be more attached to the person she spends the most time with, which would be your helper. I find that it is usually more pronounced in the initial months, but it gets better as the child grows and understands that there are many people who care for him/her. As many have already mentioned, it likely means your helper is doing a good job caring for her while you are out at work. For working mamas like us, you'll have to accept that the child's affection will be shared but you have to consciously set aside and take the time to bond with baby. Don't be too sad mama, baby will know you are her mama. Helpers come and go but you are her constant in her life.

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