depression? or just tired

My baby is 1 month old but I'm having a hard time trying to cope with baby feeding and exclusively pumping. Yesterday baby woke up at 4am to feed half way and fall asleep. Woke up at 5am to feed again. Then I had to pump from 5-6am. Rested another 30 min and baby started crying for next feed. Half the night I couldnt sleep and wonder how am I going to cope with a new day ahead. At times I just wan to give up and leave, at times when I'm frustrated I man handled baby a little. I'm wondering am I just a bad mom, or am I depressed. Thinking of next pump that might coincide with baby next feed gives me so much anxiety. And I have been crying alot whenever I cant cope with pump + baby crying. Do I need help??

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Hi dear, your schedule is so exhausting that it’s completely normal to feel the way you’re feeling. First of all, is there someone who can help you with feeding baby at night? Secondly, are you able to dream feed baby or wake baby up to finish the feed in one sitting so that you don’t have to split the feeding? Thirdly, does your pump have a stronger setting (if electric)? My pump can empty the breasts in 15 minutes, so that really helps save time and gives me more time to sleep. Please don’t feel that you’re a bad mum. I can already feel the love and dedication you have for your baby. But I do feel that you need some help. Both physically and emotionally. Who else is living with you?

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Cherlyn

Mum of 2 beautiful girls

6y ago

she falls asleep, I don’t wake her up intentionally to burp her. But only for middle of the night feeds. As for your husband, thank you for being so kind and considerate towards him, but do remember that you’re also working at home 24/7. So you can’t do this alone. You’re just going to burn out before you know it, and one day you won’t be able to look after your baby anymore. You need his support. He can do a very simple thing to just wake up once, for 10 minutes, to wash the pump, put the parts in the sterilizer and switch it on. That’s all! And it’ll help you so greatly. If you’re pumping so close to his waking time already, he doesn’t even need to wake up in the middle of the night. He can just wake up 15 minutes earlier to do that before he gets ready for work. It’s not too much to ask for, and this form of expressing love is what you need the most right now, not just him saying he loves you. Now, I’m just going to say this bluntly.. if you feel you can’t cope with exclusive pum

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