Superstitious MIL

Anyone having superstitious mil like mine? And how do u avoid having any clashes etc? My mil seem to be superstitious about so many things, cannot let baby look in the mirror, cannot call nicknames, cannot hang baby clothes out at night to dry (she took away a few sets of new baby clothes that we left out to dry, saying we CANNOT let lo wear them), cannot throw baby's outgrown clothes away... And the list goes on & on... I feel like I'm walking in a minefield everyday living with my in laws lol, dont know when what I do will irritate her and everytime my hubs & I ask why we cant do this or that, she will say 小孩子不要问这么多 and look scared. Worse is she dont tell me "her rules" directly, always tell my hubs in hokkien even though I'm standing with my hubs right in front of her (hello??) and telling my lo "ur mum so bad, dont care about u, always do these these stuff to harm u" few time right in front of me! WTF! Damn rude & damn annoying! Ranted to my hubs about these few times alr and he just brush it off saying his mum is like one just ignore will do. But his parents insist to look after lo when I get back to work in Jan and seriously this is not the style I want my lo to be learning after ?

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My MIL’s style of raising children and my style are also complete opposites. We took the most drastic step. My husband quit to become a SAHD and we raise our children. If my MIL does something like what yours does, if it’s a small thing, I try to let it go, to honour her. For bigger things, I’ll explain to her why I want to do it that way, and my husband’s also on the same page as me, so that helps. For huge issues, I let my husband do the talking. For your case, seriously consider infant care? You’ll need to tell your husband how much all this is affecting you, and both of you need to establish common goals in raising your child. Only when both of you can see eye to eye, then both of you can tell your MIL how to take care of the child, or to tell your MIL that you’ll he sending your LO to infant care instead.

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