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Just like the photo here, it's always best to keep a healthy and open communication with your child. Make him/her feel that you are interested in all of his/her stories and that means all topics. Be engaged and tell him/her all the possible advice you could give. Keep your daily communication as light as possible so it will make him/her more excited to tell you everything about himself/herself (including crushes, suitors etc).
Ako kasi nung bata pa, sinanay ako ng mom ko na maging open sa kanya. We always have our mother and daughter bonding. I told her all about my school, my day, my crushes. I tell everything to her. Di nya ako hinigpitan, BUT gusto nya, alam nya lahat ng ginagawa ko, san pupunta, ano oras uwi. As in LAHAT. Dapat di ka lang maging MOMMY o DADDY sa anak mo. BE HIS/HER BFF, BEST FRIEND AND BEST BUDDY EVER. ☺
I think it all starts early. Ideally, when you kids are young you want to develop a sense of trust between the two of you. This will make communication easy and from the get-go. If you're trying to develop that sense of communication now, you'll just need to put in effort and gain their absolute trust. It takes time to develop a sense of trust and once you earn it, seemingly all topics will be out on the table.
The best way I think would be to start by having good communication with your children. Let them feel that they can trust you and that you trust them in turn. It's actually pretty common for teenagers to have secrets, especially since at that age, they feel the need to have privacy. Always be supportive and let your child feel that they can talk to you about anything.
Open communication and dont be too strict to them. Give them freedom...Yes better if you are friends with them.diba we open our secrets to our friends so kung friends nila tayo they will share it to us too... Very Important din yun trust. Dapat trustworthy tayo para sila din ganun sa atin. If they trust us they will not keep secrets from us...
sanayin siya na okay lang mag open or magsabi sa iyo ng mga nararanasan niya or nararamdaman. build trust with your child para hindi siya mahiyang mag sabi. paramdam na palagi kang makikinig and hindi agad agad iti-take negatively ang mga kinikwento niya sayo, saka pag sabihan in a nice way para makinig and mas maintindihan niya ang point mo about sa pangaral mo.
Be a friend to your children. Make them feel na they can confide everything sa inyo/iyo. Also, if ever they share, try muna na huwag agad negative yung reaction. Process it like ano ang nagustuhan mo sa kanya etc. And siyempre, habang bata pa lang, let's teach our kids how to be responsible. Para alam nila kung ano ang tama at mali, including their priorities.
Para sa akin, open communication talaga yung susi para mas magaan magkwento sa atin yung mga anak natin. Saka iba na kasi ang generation nila ngayon. Kaya kailangan din natin magadjust at mas maging open minded, hindi para i-spoil sila, ngunit para mas makilala sila.
i think, dapat lagi kang open sa anak mo. and makinig sa mga sasabihin nila ang pakikinig kasi malaking bagay yan sa kanila. make friends with your kids. and always tell them that you are always there to guide them. use words of encouragements.
at a young age whenever your baby tells you something. you as a parent should not be mad at them for telling things. it is our responsibility to teach them rigjt from wrong. when our lo tell us things and we reacted negatively, thats how they will learn to lie.