advice please!

Hi mamsh...i can relate becoz super selosa din aq. But what happened to me was far worse than your case. My partner had an actual affair with a woman he met in a bar when I was on training (well, i'm with the law enforcement). Then when I came back I learned about their relationship which still actually exist even when I'm back. You could just imagine how i feel so betrayed, it was actually an understatement 😊, but when i confronted him, he told me everything, though there are some inconsistencies in his statements, but we know guys right, they tend to do it para makalusot. Sad for him because investigation is my cup of tea, so to make the story short, i dugged up everytying from him and from my self-investigation. But the issue there is not only the betrayal, it is the relationship. Do u think that it was the sole reason you ended up "wala ng gana sa kanya" or maybe because of some post partum churvalu dahil kakapanganak mo pa lang? And the real question now regardless of the circumstances that had happened is, are you ready to leave him? And is leaving him would make you happy and more satisfied in your life? Or would you consider contemplating your siruation and likewise assessing yourself, if the problem is not him alone, but also you? Before arriving into a decision, think and moreso...feel sissy. Think and feel for yourself, for your partner and most of all...for your child. You know sometimes jealousy brings out not only the worst in a person but the best realization as well. I've been there, i've done that...and now I'm at peace, with my partner and we are now excitedly expecting our little angel. God bless us all. 😉😉😉

May mga panahon tlga kung saan sinusubok ang ating relasyon sa ating mga partner. Nasa sainyo iyon kung paano nyo lalabanan pareho ang pagsubok na iyon. Mahirap tlga kapag nahuli mong ginawa ng mister mo ung ganyang bagay. Para kang pinagtaksilan. To the point na, kapag tulog sya titignan mo lagi history ng phone nya kung ginagawa nya parin un, nakakaparanoid. Parang nagkaka trust issue ka sakanya. Been there, pero hndi sa mga dati nyang crush, medyo grabe pa dyan. Hinayaan ko nlng. For the sake of my family. Para hndi ito masira. Once na naconfront ko ma sya about dun, okay na. Hinahayaan ko nlng kahit minsan naaalala ko nlng bigla ung ginawa nyang un. As long as hndi sya nakipagcommunicate dun sa babaeng inistalk nya. I think give him another chance. Kasi baka sa pag ignore mo sknya, mas lalo kang mawalan ng asawa dahil lang dun sa bagay na un.

Feeling ko mi, hindi yan dahil sa pag visit sa ex nya kaya ka walang gana sa kanya. I think sa hormones natin yan. Ganyan dn kasi ako nung nanganak, ayaw ko na mag pahawak sa asawa ko wala naman sya kasalanan pero parang nandidiri ako ba ewan. Pero alam mo yun parang wala kang gana palagi, simula nung nanganak ako 6months na baby ko nung pinag bigyan ko sya. Kasi pasampa na dn sya sa barko. Kaya pinag bigyan ko na pero wala talaga akong gana. Tas balisa ako palagi! Better dn po kausapin nyo po sya at sabhn sitwasyon mo. Kasi balak ko po mag pa consult kapag nakababa na sya. Kung anu na nangyayari sakin. Para ma suggest mo dn kung pwde ka dn mag paconsult or counceling regarding sa feelings ntin.

Sa totoo lang kung dahil lang sa pag visit ng profile ng dating niligawan for me yes mabbaw sya para maging ganun ka kahard sa kanya merong ibang reason para magawa mo yun sa partner mo hindi lang yun siguro nga baka hindi mo na mahal kaya ganun pero may pinagmulan parin kung bakit biglang di mo na mhal hindi lang dahil sa pag visit ng profile ng isang tao..iba iba naman tayong mga babae siguro mas ok kung iisipin mo din bkit kaba naging ganun sa kanya ikaw lang din kasi makakaalam nyan.

You're just stress mommy dahil nag aadjust pa tayo tas nadagdagan pa nung nahuli mo hubby mo. In my case ako din parang nawalan ng gana sa hubby ko, 3-4x lang ata kami nag sex and pilit din yung iba pero walang 3rd party or any ish. Basta lagi ako sakanya galit at nabbwisit. Parang gusto ko na nga syang hiwalayan non. Check your heart pa din po. Baka natatabunan lang yan ng galit at stress.

Mamsh I've been there umabot sa punto na nagkakaiyakan na kame kase naf-fall out of love na ko sa sakit ng nagawa niya na alam ko mababaw kase ako lang naman tong puro selos pero ayoko lang matapos nang ganun ganun lang relationship namin. Mamsh maging open ka, pagusapan niyo, lahat ng nararamdaman mo sabihin mo, pag wala paring nagbago, then it's your job to decide.

Hi Mommy, hindi mababaw yan. You have all the rights to feel how you feel kasi you’re the mother of his child! Hmm, kausapin mo kaya momsh. Humingi ka ng space? Para you can contemplate na din kung talaga bang gusto mo pa siya sa buhay mo as his partner or not. Trust me, if he loves you, he’ll wait for you.