Guilty mum

Question

Yesterday i just yelled at my 4 month old baby.. He was so cranky and clingy and Im currently working from home.. i cant work when Ive to keep carrying him.. he keeps screaming and crying that it makes me so frustrated and i yelled at him.. i know yelling at him makes things worst as he cried even worst.. but i really lost control.. thinking back I felt guilty as he was just a baby.. i could have be more patience with him.. just wanted to ask if the yelling could have traumatised him or affect any of his mental development? I really felt very bad about the whole thing..

Nurul Abdul · Answer

I believe you are experiencing burnout. I experienced that before. We did not get any helper because it was covid surging time. So I had to be full time mom and I was also recovering from chronic pregnancy complication. It was tough as I also had ensure the house is "livable". Sure, the husband helps alot but sometimes you just need a helper once a while (if it can be helped) otherwise, you will reach your limit and enter the burnout mode and before you know it, you starts yelling at your baby. You can also get burnout when you do everything on your own and not sharing how difficult it is... I read somewhere, what matter is what you do after such incident and also it matter alot, if you check what triggers this burnout mode. Do not be scare to seek help. Counseling sometimes help, and of course a house helper and maid can help alot. If you have supportive loving parents, that will be much more better choice.