I paid everything my husband does

Question

Any wives here pay their husband in whatever chores he does around the house or its just me? My husband is very calculative and expected payment if I need his help such as washing the toilet, massage my feet. I just gave birth and sometimes it hurts here and there after a long day, I did almost everything. After a day of giving birth... I already started cleaning the house (Discharged, the moment I reached the house) Without me, the house is miserable! He cant do anything. Hes not working and I expected him to at least help around so I wont fall into depression. I provided everything and he cant even take care of our children :( Its been 5 days since I gave birth, Im feeling so low and tired. I woke up every night to breastfeed my newborn while hes asleep peacefully. The whole house is neat and tidy because of me. He just spend his time playing Mobile Legends and sleeping, thats all. I feel like hes just extra in my life, extra burden. Sometimes I just wonder if I were single... no difference just without him, I still need to do those. At least no depression because of him

Raven Tan · Answer

You have chosen to marry this person and to support him through thick and thin. But this depends on the person he is - is he just going through a bad phase and this is when he really needs your help to get through it, or is he just a hopeless deadbeat and you had just ignored all the signs from the start? If it's the latter, now that you have seen him for who he is, I think it's fair for you to reconsider your marriage. Life is too precious to waste committing to one bad decision that you can fix instead.