why like this?
When me n husb went out for few hrs to take break, mil will take care of LO. But once we home, she will nag nag nag. But when i saw my sil (husb'sis) asked my mil to look after her LO, when my sil is back, mil didnot nag, even can smile smile updating sil of her LO' activities etc. Why different treatment sia?? Just ranting out~~~
Hey, I would suggest just don't think about it too much and let it go. It might be because your MIL would have got little tired or might be simply nothing
Just ignore...mayb next time when u home buy something for her
I feel you. I just let her nag and let it goooooo
Don't take or too personally...Maybe next time buy her favourite food or a little gift (:
Same for my side, when my sil brought her child here she will gave her full attention and ignore mine. Then I have to do everything. Moreover she will nag when my hub and I wanted to take a break like go out for dinner or smth. When we say we bring LO she will also comment don’t bring la, so troublesome when you all want to eat. Seriously, I don’t know what is up in her mind too... I feel you!!!Read more
We can’t really help it...and she’s her daughter after all. Perhaps next time, you can get her something when you go back home. If it doesn’t improve her attitude, then there’s nothing you can do. We can’t please everyone. Just be a dutiful wife and mother and respectful DIL. As Long as you’re happy, nothing else matters.Read more
Same as my MIL. Initially ask her to help our during confinement maybe we can order confinement tingkat to eat together. She said ok at first. After a week she say she changed my mind. She told my husband it’s Because she don’t want to quarrel with me. But my husband’s lil bro getting married soon and she’s ok that her NEW daughter in law move in with her. My Hubs got so mad and told her off. Oh well. Everyone have their own issue I Guess. But ya. Some MIL just like that.Read more
No choice.. our children our responsibility. The mil is not obliged to take care of your children anyway. Look on the positive end, at least you get some time out while she looked after the child for a few hours. Some mothers dont even have such luxury, they have completely no help, stuck with children as long as they are breathing.. and may not even remember when the last time they went to a cinemaRead more
Maybe next u go out ask her if she feels like eating anything or buy anything.sometimes it's just the attention they need. And also sometimes they will say no need no need no need, but actually when u bought it they very happy in their heart but don't show it out. Just got to do with the pride babe.Read more
There's always different between daughter and DIL. I guess most of us loves our mother more than MIL too U will feel better if u can ignore and stop comparing
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To me ,if i have a mum i will ask my mum to take care of my baby instead of MIL. It will be hard for MIL to cope 2 babies at one go... And usually there will cause a lot of problem if you choose to put both at home. Otherwise you can look after your own child or put your baby in infant care. Or relative aunt who stays nearby if you guys are close enough.Anonymous
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Hi there. I think u can let ur sil know that u don't like it by saying like "where got like dog? My boy so cute". Tell aunty that we not not dog, we just teething only"....i don't think that she meant any harm, it could be a cute version of the animals that she is referring to (after all all the kids boooks have cute lively animals). I think no need to be too sensitive, just defuse the statements away ad after a few times, hopefully she will ge itAnonymous