mad at your spouse

One thing that really ticks me off is the fact that he takes me for granted all the time. for instance, even though i am a working woman, i am the main caregiver and am always present with the kids. so, he knows that he can go out for pleasure or work any time he wants, without asking me or discussing with me. he makes his plans the way he wants and tells me after all is booked. on the other hand, if i feel like taking a break or want to make a plan of my own without him, he says he is busy and cannot take a leave because of me. i am given only a saturday or sunday to plan, and even then, if i do, he will keep cribbing about how bad i am that i make plans without him and the kids and want time for myself...