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Every other woman give birth, you're not the only one. Oh please what emotions.. Don't be do childish... We can't help you out with this, it's your business we didn't ask you to get pregnant.. If you have eaten better before pregnancy you were not like this... Why would I (husband) do anything? It's non of my business.. Are you nuts, the pain is totally normal!! When I was at your age I gave birth every year... Look at my sons.. Every other girl was better than you.. Actually don't say anything if you can't make us comfortable and cozy with some lovely words and actions.. I BEG YOU.. PLEASE.. I'M ALREADY STRESSED OUT!!!

ako ang nakakasama tlg ng loob ung sasabihing "walang budget para jan" or "saka na yan" pag may gusto ako kainin, tapos nakasimangot pag nabili ko, sasabihin "ikaw lang may gusto nyan eh hnd naman totoo ang naglilihi" hay iniyakan ko tlg pag ganto asawa ko, mga ilang beses bago ko umiyak kc nung una nagpipigil lng ako pero d ko kinaya ung last time na nag crave ako sa sandwich clubhouse ng tropical, pero after ko un umiyak kc nakita nya ko umiyak tlg nilabas ko sama ng loob ko twing ganun sya, kaya ayun hnd na sya nagagalit pag may gusto ako kainin. iba kc ako mag lihi, iba iba gustong kainin tapos pag d ko makain naiinis tlg ako.

1. Mga reasons kung bakit personally *ayaw* nila magka anak. Hassle daw kasi. 2. F***** up na raw ang mundo (dahil sa current events) kaya di na raw maganda mag dala ng bata dito. 3. Na iritable sila sa presensya ng mga bata. 4. Mga komentong, "tapos tataba ka, tapos magkaka stretch marks, tapos masusugat pempem mo pag nanganak ka.." Okay lang sakin mga insulto na pisikal. Pero ung sasabihan ka ng ka negahan sa pagiging nanay (FTM here), pag lalabor, at kung bakit di ka na fun dahil buntis ka na yung nakaka inis.

Me sinabihan minsan na "tumataba kna" and "haggard mo tingnan" which is I don't really give much attention to. Ang importante magkakababy na kmi ng hubby ko 😊😊😊. I can always bring back the old me pagkapanganak so I don't stress myself out over those comments. Nung nalaman na buntis aq xka nman sila "kaya ka pla tumataba, kaya ka pla mukha haggard kc buntis ka", like duh whatever myob. Pero nung ung asawa ko binibiro aq na mataba na, abah sinipa at sinuntok ko nga 🤣🤣🤣. Tapos tatawa-tawa lang siya.

Your belly is so small and damn.. it came from another pregnant woman. "Hello! I am wearing a loose clothing!" Then at a pregnancy talk, the doctor mentioned that it will be a fact that when a mommy is slightly bigger size, her baby will be on the heavier scale as well. I am not trying to abash any mommies because we are all beautiful and we should look out for and empower our own kind. However, coming from another pregnant woman, the term "fat mommy fat baby" from the talk just suit her. 😠

Judgment on the growth of the baby before the baby is even born. How the mother eats and utilizes her time. Any unsolicited advice. Comparison to other mothers, mothers experiences, lifestyle and outlook. Not every pregnancy journey is the same. Best thing is to ask, observe and understand the best you can. Pregnancy is a fragile experience, and mothers are especially sensitive to any information given or judgments said about their journey.

Maliit daw ung tyan ko. Hahahaha okay lang. Sabi naman ni doc normal lang un sa first pregnancy. Nung una napapaisip talaga ako kung okay lang ba siya kasi as in maliit siya pero sabi naman ng ob ko eh normal size naman daw si baby kaya pag may nag ask sa akin kung ilang months na at nagtanong kung bakit maliit. Sinasagot ko lang na normal lang naman daw ung size niya sabi ni doc. Well di nman ako na. Ooffend kasi alam ko sa sarili ko na healthy si baby at un ung importante.

Ftm here.. When i was on my first trimester, naglilihi ako. Food aversion mostly yung skn kaya i shed a few pounds. Sinabihan ba naman ako na baka boy yung baby ko kc ang haggard ko dw. D dw ako looking fresh. Hindi ako naka imik. Sa dami2 pa naman changes sa katawan ng babae pag nag bbuntis, feeling nauseated pa all the time, looking fresh or gorgeous would be the last thing on my mind.

hindi naman ako nasasaktan sa "pumanget ka, umitim kili-kili mo," nakakainis lang is yung hindi ko naman pinipilit neighbors ko na maniwalang buntis ako pero lagi pag bakikita nila ako "tae lang ata yan, bakit ang liit ng tiyan mo? buntis ka ba talaga o sinasabi mo lang na buntis ka para di ka iwan ni (father's name)" yan ang nakakainis.

Definitely don't make comments about her weight or say things like, "make sure you lose all your baby weight after the baby comes". Or pretty much avoid saying anything that will cause her to feel sad, stressed or worried. Whatever she feels, the baby will feel as well. Think about the baby's well being above anything else, please.