Just want to share my story..
Earlier this year I discovered that I am pregnant. I told the news to my boyfriend and he suggested to abort the baby. He said he is not ready yet and he still can meet other girls when kapag bumalik n sya sa bansa nila (yes, he is a foreigner), so if I will not abort the baby, I need to raise the baby by myself.
That made me hurt, of course, coz the baby has nothing to do with him being not prepared, but as a Filipina who has a foreigner boyfriend, I already expected hindi nya pananagutan yung bata. We made love, I know there was a high possibility that I can be pregnant so I should take the responsibility, with or without him. So, instead of crying and make him maawa sakin I was brave enough to say, "Okay. I'll raise my child alone. You no need to suggest for abortion, I can raise the child by myself."
After I told him na preggy ako, he ignored me for days. Pero di ako nagpaawa. Pinaninindigan ko na we had sex, hindi mo ako pinilit, I know that can make me pregnant, and I'll take the responsibility. Pero deep inside I have so much pain. I was just pretending to be strong. Pero deep inside sobrang sakit.
Then I talked to him again, I told him, "I will not force you to be a father, or to support my baby as he or she grows up, but let me request one thing. Stay beside me until I gave birth, take good care of me while the baby is in my womb. 9 months I will save money for the baby, I'll give you Php15,000.00 every month (but I was giving him Php 20,000.00/ monthly to save), you too, as the father, need to save, your salary is higher so you need to save Php 25,000.00/monthly, but I will not touch the money. Keep the money in your account until I give birth. Do not go back to your country until the baby came out. After the baby is born, you can finally leave. You will not hear anything from us.. "(I asked money from him to save, yes. Doesn't mean mukha akong pera or what, I also need to be smart but not to greedy at the same time. so please do not judge me.)
My boyfriend agreed. Kasi maliit na bagay lang naman din yun compare sa magpalaki ng bata mag-isa. So kahit napipilitan inaalagaan nya ako mabuti. Nagpapaka father sya sa unborn baby. Ako din as his girlfriend inaalagaan ko din naman sya mabuti. When he gives me money I do not accept, I only accept food or fruits. But I make sure na kahit preggy ako give and take kami. I still treat him really good despite the fact na kasunduan lang yun.
Then after two months sa ganung situation, he talked to me. He said he was sorry for everything, that he finally decided to take the responsibility for the baby. That he realized how lucky he is to have me, that he realized I am that wife material. So he asked me to marry him.
Kabuwanan ko na next month, and hindi sya nagbago, he is still that guy na nag sorry sakin months ago. Inaalagaan nya akong mabuti and ang pinagtatalunan na lang namin ay ang pag stop ko sa work to be a full time mom. We will be married next year (this year sana kaso dahil sa pandemic we need to cancel first, focus muna kay baby) and I can see the sincerity naman sa kanya and he makes me feel love everyday. He even finally introduced me sa family nya and planning to migrate months after I gave birth. Gusto nya kasi same citizenship sila. Ni baby.
Next month we will be having a baby girl. And super excited na si Daddy nya na ma meet sya!
God is good, basta naniniwala ka. I was ready to be take the responsibility alone but God let me be brave enough to be strong which made my partner change his mind.
#1stimemom #firstbaby #bantusharing
Jenny Reyes