Today my heart broke a little bit. It was my little ones first day of preschool and I brought my helper along to assist me. When we were ready to leave, my little one kept bawling away and would not let go of my helper and kept saying "ateh, don't leave me" (ateh is big Sister). I told my baby, ok, mumma can take time off from work and spend with you and she replied, no I want ateh to stay and play with me. I feel jealous and hurt that my baby prefers The Maid to me. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like changing maids.

*hugs* It can be heartbreaking but I'm sure your child will know over time that maids can be replaced, but her mummy will always be there. Thinking positive, it means your maid has done a good job in looking after your girl. Between heartbreak due to jealousy and heartbreak due to child abuse, I'll pick jealousy any time. She does not deserve to lose her job for a job well done. But having said that, you can try to spend some alone time to bond with your girl. If your maid comes along to interrupt, let her know it's Mummy and Daughter bonding time. Try to handle most things yourself when you're at home (ie. bathe, feed, diaper, sleep, etc). Kids build bonding not by the identity but by the time spent with the person. Cheer up. :)