Today my heart broke a little bit. It was my little ones first day of preschool and I brought my helper along to assist me. When we were ready to leave, my little one kept bawling away and would not let go of my helper and kept saying "ateh, don't leave me" (ateh is big Sister). I told my baby, ok, mumma can take time off from work and spend with you and she replied, no I want ateh to stay and play with me. I feel jealous and hurt that my baby prefers The Maid to me. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like changing maids.

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I can understand, it's normal for you to feel jealous and normal for your LO to feel attached to primary caregiver. It is also one of my greatest fear that my LO (now 4 months) will prefer my helper (main caregiver when I am at work) than me. In the first week of returning to work, I was so jealous that I thought of quitting my job and firing her... But we have to work, so no choice... All we can do is to spend as much quality time with them as possible, and hope they will understand when they grow older...

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