Today my heart broke a little bit. It was my little ones first day of preschool and I brought my helper along to assist me. When we were ready to leave, my little one kept bawling away and would not let go of my helper and kept saying "ateh, don't leave me" (ateh is big Sister). I told my baby, ok, mumma can take time off from work and spend with you and she replied, no I want ateh to stay and play with me. I feel jealous and hurt that my baby prefers The Maid to me. Am I being unreasonable? I feel like changing maids.

Actually instead of changing ur helper, i feel that the problem is u. im not judging u but the solution is u. the fact that ur child prefers ur helper shows that she is doing her job well. u shouldn't change her, u dont knw what ur next helper would be like. while it may be harsh to say all this, this is a good chance to reflect on how u can turn things around. it is nt late to build a stronger bond with ur child. i share with u my example. my helper's main duties are housework, laundry n cooking. she does not look after my son. my mum helps out while im at work and after wrk i rush home immediately to take over. i breastfeed n prepare all my lo solid foods. i bathe him in the evening n my hub bathes him in the morning. i spent all my after-wrk time with my lo, teaching n playing with n looking after him. my hub n i rock n tuck him into bed. my hub n i look after him entire wkends. my helper has little contact with him, the only thing she does for him is wash his clothes. i know different ppl have different constraints n may not have a mom or mil or hub to help out. but i feel that as a mother, we are always making sacrifices. it depends on what u want to prioritise, what is impt to u. for me, i sacrifice my me-time and my career advancements for motherhood because it is impt to me. if u feel that, for example other than motherhood, u also want to focus on n grow ur career then sacrifices have to be made. n cant complain when there is less bonding between u n child. but if u decide to focus more on motherhood but have no one other than the maid to help u, maybe make it such that ur maid takes care of the child when u r at wrk but u take over entirely once u r back? more work for mummy but no choice. so now is a good time to reassess ur situation. sometimes we need incidents like this to help us realign our life directions. all the best!