Sometimes, I feel very hopeless. My husband & me r getting more & more distant. Ever since we have our son, his focus is forever about son & himself only. I'm feeling more like an outsider. Whenever son cries, he will first to blame me. After son is born, we only have 1 time sex. And that's becos he doesn't want to anymore. Whenever he has the time, it will be playing games on laptop. I've stopped talking to my mil as we have too many conflicts handling my son since born. And definitely affect my marriage life. I've getting very hopeless in this marriage & family. If husband has no heart & effort to salvage the relationship, it can't only be me one-sided right? I've seriously think of divorce several times but hang on due to dear son. But it's getting v difficult to hang on. Have u ever regretted marrying? I'm really envious of others whose husband who focus on them before children.

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The first year post a baby is the toughest on a relationship. It is a testing time. But there is nothing that cannot be solved with open and honest communication. You must tell your husband how you feel and why it’s important at this stage for the two of you to act like a team and not like competition. Tell him that you need his support and care at this crucial juncture. And you are struggling to find hope in this relationship. Hear him out and see how he feels. He might be going through the same without sharing too. Most importantly be considerate to your and his feelings as well and try to come up with a solution that works for both of you. As for your MiL, there is nothing to think about. If she hasn’t been your support when you needed it the most, she won’t be now as well. So just develop a thick skin and work it out with your husband.

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Home Random Talk sometimes i feel very hopeless my husband r getting more more distant ever since have son focus forever about son himself only im feeling more like outsider whenever son cries first blame after son born only have 1 time sex and that becos doesnt want anymore whenever has time playing games laptopive stopped talking mil have too many conflicts handling son since born and definitely affect marriage lifeive getting very hopeless in marriage