marry too early

Hi all.. pls dont judge genuinely need some REAL adult advise. it was a shotgun marriage, my husband and I we were together on and off many times since we were 14yo, now 23yo. the reasons we broke off many times before was due to arguments, incompatibility. it was a spur of the moment when we said we wanted a kid and we got a kid hence marrying at 21 and a mom at 22.. during this period, my husband and I did have fun nice memories la but we both feel we r still not compatible with each other we still argue A LOT. when times r good, both of us feel happy and how lucky we r to have a beautiful baby girl. but when times r bad, I start to feel regrets for marrying him but never regretting giving birth to my baby. in all honesty, I've thought of divorcing. but I can't bear to let my daughter go thru this :( After marriage. I've been in and out of depression.. i suggested to go for marriage counselling but he doesn't want he feel we r fine. Some advice pls?? Is this just a phase? or do I just tahan for the sake of my baby?

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I feel at 23 you're not too young but not fully adults either, as in there's still room for growth and changes. Especially men tend to mature slower than women so if there are things that make you unhappy about each other, it's fine to slowly work it out together. I understand at times it feels like nothing can change, but young people are still very adaptable. You can help each other overcome your weaknesses and become better people together. Just communicate a lot and talk about your own feelings rather than blaming the other party. For example you can tell him why you would like to consider counselling like you're feeling very sad and unsure about your future, because he doesn't seem to understand that currently. All the best!

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