Not sure if it's just me but is it normal that husbands tend to want their own "space"? Mine asks for movie nights (we do go for it from time to time), asks if my LO can sleepover at my in laws on some days (when we return home late), plans to attend events (and not be bothered about asking whats the arrangement with the LO), asks if we can get someone to babysit while we do groceries or go somewhere.. apart from that, when he's with our LO, he'll spend about 5-10min playing with him and then he will be back to doing his own things. He cant sit still and stay at home to look after our LO. He has to go to places.. it's like he's bored. I just hate to think that he feels like our LO is a hassle to be with. That's the whole point. He's 6mo now. I, on the other hand, feels that our LO is our responsibility but we barely get to spend time during weekdays with him. I want our LO to be home with us everyday. I wanna bring him everywhere with us unless it's really troublesome to do so or if i feel that we'll be in a situation where it's hard for our LO to nap and rest. I plan my schedule and have our LO in mind - where does he go to, what time will i be home to catch him before his bedtime, etc. Yes, im a mom. So naturally i tend to be more attached to our LO i guess? Am i just being sensitive or is that really how men are, in general? I would really like to understand before this becomes a topic of argument. Dont get me wrong, he's a wonderful husband and dad. Just feel that he's selfish for always trying to do things that are "convenient".

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I guess it depends on the upbringing. My husband wasn't bought up by his own parents but "others". My in-laws said they have no "baby" luck or time to take care of children. My husband spend most of his time alone and earn his own living. Even when he was bought back to stay with my in-law, they make him take care of his grandparents. He never ate home cooked food before etc only outside food. Due to that, this is how he treat our children now. He think as long as he provides food and money, he is a "Father". I got to spend a lot of time to explain to him and using his childhood as example to "coach" him and get him to work with me. After 4 years of being "Father", he still go into his "selfish" mood sometimes. However, he do love the kids alot just that he do not know how to show his loves as his parents weren't there to guide him. Even now my in-laws treat my kids as "toys", only come when they have no activity that day.

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