Need to rant it out. Me and my hubby decided not to do baby 1st month shower but my in laws side insisted on doing and I currently staying with at my mother house. If we are doing the baby shower we have to go to my in laws house and do and if I do my in law side, my own family side also have to do. So make it 2 baby shower. So fuzzy ler. Say what "it's their first grandson have to do." It's just 1 month celebration and I am not that pantang kind of mother. Just feel my in laws side very irritating.

I only did with my in laws family. My parents didn't insist on it and in fact they told me not to do it. Can double check if your parents mind or not. If not then just so it at your in laws.

I was in the same exact situation as you. The best way to settle it both is to do it a outside venue. This way BOTH families are able to come and celebrate their FIRST grandchild.

Totally feel you mummy. I got my husband to talk to his family but lucky my side is more understanding. You’re not alone!!

Never had any 1 month / 100 days party, and don't think we missed out at all on anything.

We both agree not doing due to convid19 both side parent also agree.

no-no now