Overinvolved in-laws

Question

How do you mommies deal with overinvolved in-laws? I dont understand why I even need to ASK FOR PERMISSION to hold my babys birthday party at my house instead of celebrating at my in-laws place. Like hello? My babys birthday of course hold at babys house right, we still have to bring cake over to in-laws house to celebrate meh? And when to hold zhua zhou in-laws also must comment. Sorry but just want to say, I am the mother and it is up to me. If you want to make decision you decide for your own children, not mine. Thanks.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

omg I can imagine your frustration, and it's totally legit! I can foresee my FIL being over-involved in such matters after I give birth (naming the baby, insisting on full month celebration etc.), even tho he has been completely uninvolved & unconcerned during my pregnancy so I'd need help with this too! He deserves no say! I'd be flipping mad, yet dunno how to put my point across without looking like a bad daughter-in-law. Best is if our husbands can step up and talk to their own parents, and that'd solve the prob for us, isn't it! But well, they either dunno how or don't dare to do that. 😒 *Fellow frustrated mummy following this thread and hoping to hear helpful responses!*