My baby is co-sleeping with my mom since they had a visit to our province when she was 4 months old and stayed there for a month. When they came back, baby cries in the middle of the night when she finds out that I’m the one beside her. Then I just allowed her to go with her grandma on bed times (provides baby with my bottled breastmilk). Will we have lesser connection when she grows up? She still cries when I leave her for work though. Did I make a wrong move?

Here is a great article (though lengthy) on creating a secure attachment with your baby. http://psychcentral.com/lib/five-ways-to-create-a-secure-attachment-with-your-baby-without-sharing-your-bed/ One key takeaway I got from it is that attachment does not necessarily means constant togetherness. The important point is that the baby has a regular caregiver in the first six months of his/her life, as that is the period they seek security. The lack of a constant figure may create unnecessary stress for the baby. For now, continue to shower your baby with love, care and attention whenever you can. Soothe her when she fusses and breastfeed her after work. Breastfeeding is the best bonding time for mother and baby. It is really great that your baby has a doting grandmother whom she is comfortable with. You can still bond with your daughter and be there for her when she needs comforting.