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Hi mummies,i'm currently 35+5 weeks now,not long till delivery.I'm an unwed muslim mum and i have some questions and rants. Firstly,when my family found out that i was pregnant,they told me to abort or even threaten to "spike" me in order for me to abort naturally.They told me that they don't want to care or look after the baby after i deliver which i say that i'm fine with it cause thru out everything i never ask for a single cent from them at all and its not that i'm arrogant or something but they asked me if the father of the child is taking responsibilities by paying the bills and everything which he did,he bought everything for the baby but now they want to take my baby away from me trying to say that we are not financially stable for a baby and that they don't like the baby's father.I admit we had some issues in the past but we worked thru it. Secondly,i'm currently 24,thinking of moving away from my house,away from my siblings and get married to my baby father after confinement,but i'm afraid that my father disagree with the marriage,can i apply for wali hakim if he does not want to be the wali?and what is the process like? thirdly,its regarding medisave.I might not have enough to pay for my own hospital bill but the baby father do.So is he allowed to only pay for the baby only?and do i have to use my father's medisave to pay for my hospital bill?#1stimemom #advicepls

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Sorry to hear what you are going through. My 2 cents worth as follows: 1. Based on what you have said, I would suggest is better to move out. You may seek your MP, MSF or MUIS for lodging or temporary financial assistance. 2. Is better to check with the ROMM or MUIS. Please note that even both of you are married under the Muslim law, your baby is not considered as the legitimate child of your husband even they are biological related. Hence, there will be inheritance issue in future be it estate or CPF monies. However, the baby's father can nominate his CPF monies to the baby. For further details, please check with the MUIS. 3. The Medisave account can only be used to pay for the immediate family. For non-immediate family such as uncle, aunt etc, he/she needs to prove there is insufficient money in his/her account. Therefore, I don't think the baby's father can use his Medisave for payment. You may check or appeal to the CPF Board. As you are due soon, hope you can clear your doubts and get the assistance soon. Take care.

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